Don't know who wrote it, but I like it.

The trouble with contemporary Christianity is that a massive bait and switch is going on. “Christianity” has essentially become a mechanism for allowing millions of people to replace being a decent human being with something else, an endorsed “spiritual” substitute. For example, rather than being a decent human being the following is a list of some commonly acceptable substitutes:

Going to church
Worship
Praying
Spiritual disciplines (e.g., fasting)
Bible study
Voting Republican
Going on spiritual retreats
Reading religious books
Arguing with evolutionists
Sending your child to a Christian school or providing education at home
Using religious language
Avoiding R-rated movies
Not reading Harry Potter.

The point is that one can fill a life full of spiritual activities without ever, actually, trying to become a more decent human being. Much of this activity can actually distract one from becoming a more decent human being. In fact, some of these activities make you worse, interpersonally speaking. Many churches are jerk factories.

Take, for example, how Christians tip and behave in restaurants. If you have ever worked in the restaurant industry you know the reputation of the Sunday morning lunch crowd. Millions of Christians go to lunch after church on Sundays and their behavior is abysmal. The single most damaging phenomenon to the witness of Christianity in America today is the collective behavior of the Sunday morning lunch crowd. Never has a more well-dressed, entitled, dismissive, haughty or cheap collection of Christians been seen on the face of the earth.

I exaggerate of course. But I hope you see my point. Rather than pouring our efforts into two hours of worship, bible study and Christian fellowship on Sunday why don’t we just take a moment and a few extra bucks to act like a decent human being when we go to lunch afterwards? Just think about it. What if the entire restaurant industry actually began to look forward to working Sunday lunch? If they said amongst themselves, “I love the church crowd. They are kind, patient and very generous. It’s my favorite part of the week waiting on Christians.” How might such a change affect the way the world sees us? Think about it. Just being a decent human being for one hour each Sunday and the world sees us in a whole new way.

But it’s not going to happen. Because behavior at lunch isn’t considered to be “working on your relationship with God.” Behavior at lunch isn’t spiritual. Going to church, well, that is working on your relationship with God. But, as we all know, any jerk can sit in a pew. But you can’t be a jerk if you take the time to treat your waitress as if she were a friend, daughter or mother.

My point in all this is that contemporary Christianity has lost its way. Christians don’t wake up every morning thinking about how to become a more decent human being. Instead, they wake up trying to “work on their relationship with God” which very often has nothing to do with treating people better. How could such a confusion have occurred? How did we end up going so wrong? I’m sure there are lots of answers, but at the end of the day we need to face up to our collective failure. I’m not saying we need to do anything dramatic. A baby step would do to start. Waking up trying to be a little more kind, more generous, more interruptible, more forgiving, more humble, more civil, more tolerant. Do these things and prayer and worship will come alongside to support us.

I truly want people to spend time working on their relationship with God. I just want them to do it by taking the time to care about the person standing right in front of them.
  • missysnapp
    I left a bigger tip on the table today because of this post. Amen to it. We aren't ever angry customers, but we can be loud and messy at times! :)
    by missysnapp at 11/08/09 12:09PM
  • highflyinwhyteman
    I agree that too many can be called these 'contemporary Christians', the sort that practice a superficial and hollow service rather than something that actually comes from the heart. And they can harbor all sorts of political and social ideas, not solely the conservative type. This hypocritical lip-service then is apparent to anyone who they might have influenced positively, and is demeaning of the type of people they should be. There shouldnt be a consideration for contemporary Christianity anyway....our lives arent subject to the times, only to God. Your list of sterotypes are a group of traits I think that are not far from describing a humble, penitent person...though not neccessarily including the political/educational ideas. The difference between that type and the other you describe is marginal at best...if our love for God shows in so many ways, then we likely are not far off.
    by highflyinwhyteman at 11/08/09 4:23PM
  • fallacyofthemind
    While I understand what is being said by you, Derek, and in many ways agree, I think your comments somewhat miss the point being made. This article is, I believe, in no way saying that the stereotypical list given above is negative in anyway, but rather that it has surpassed the whole of its parts. In other words, rather then these things being a result of our relationship with God and sense of mission in spreading His love to all of those around us, they have become the PURPOSE for religious life for many Christians, including myself at times. We've stopped seeking to be the light of Christ to the world, and instead taken a detour to attempt to prove that we are righteous because of all the religious things we do. In effect, we've separated the way that we seek out God in our personal lives from the way we deal in our lives socially, economically and politically; we're so caught up in looking towards God, that we've missed who He's looking at--the poor, the oppressed, the disgruntled waiter looking for Christ. We must begin living EVERY aspect of our lives as an act of service and worship to God by representing Him in our restaraunt decorum, our immigration policies, and how much we sacrifice of ourselves not only financially, but in our time. We've got to stop seeking to be religiously pious and begin immersing ourselves in being Christ to every one.
    by fallacyofthemind at 11/08/09 5:35PM
  • rachel_jeanne
    thats some good thoughts! and i love you too! and miss you lots(:
    by rachel_jeanne at 11/09/09 10:10PM
  • kellen
    I pray that we will all seek a faith that changes our hearts first - leading us to bear fruits in every aspect of life - not just those limited to a subconcious check-list. I think a change in someone's heart would still produce the majority of the items on your list... but I am in full agreement that we've missed the point if those actions become our goal. We should strive to be decent human beings, yes, but also more than that! It should no longer be I who live, but Christ who lives in me! Thanks for the thoughts (Gary and Derek included).
    by kellen at 11/10/09 3:40AM
  • whatsyourconfession
    If you think this post is saying NOT to live a moral and godly life, then you need to read it again.
    by whatsyourconfession at 11/11/09 10:14AM
  • rachel_jeanne
    me too(: i dont know what i would do if you werent there to talk to or cry on. i love you traci! ♥
    by rachel_jeanne at 01/05/10 4:37PM
  • rachel_jeanne
    gary's mom!!! hi gary's mom!! i love you gary's mom!! ...sorry, but i just saw your name like this on a page and i wanted to call you that(: hehe.
    by rachel_jeanne at 01/18/10 1:12AM
  • rachel_jeanne
    i just wanted to let you know, you are absolutely beautiful(:
    by rachel_jeanne at 01/26/10 8:40PM
  • joyfulsong
    Whaasssup! Love you. :)
    by joyfulsong at 02/04/10 5:52PM
  • rachel_jeanne
    i miss you too :(
    by rachel_jeanne at 03/23/10 9:33AM
  • rachel_jeanne
    so i was sitting here, watching my sister fill out her graduation invitations then i started thinking about that it will be me in a year and i just wanted you to know that you definitely will be recieving one because i love you.
    by rachel_jeanne at 04/30/10 5:27PM

My Babies!!!

  • whatsyourconfession
    Ignore my voice, yuck!!
    by whatsyourconfession at 09/21/09 7:06PM
  • joyfulsong
    They are beautiful!! Congratulations! I'm happy for all for you.
    by joyfulsong at 09/21/09 7:43PM
  • swood
    Yeah :)
    by swood at 09/21/09 9:35PM
  • missysnapp
    Wow! Congrats! That's a good looking brood!
    by missysnapp at 09/21/09 10:48PM
  • sunshinebear
    She is one excited big sister!! Too precious!
    by sunshinebear at 09/22/09 6:45AM
  • charlies_angel
    Enjoy!
    by charlies_angel at 09/28/09 9:28AM
  • anutty
    Congrat's to the family!
    by anutty at 09/29/09 10:27AM
  • jenniferlyn
    Precious!
    by jenniferlyn at 09/29/09 5:22PM
  • kellen
    Congrats! :)
    by kellen at 10/03/09 10:40PM

Finding your own way, according to HIS.

As John Wesley wrote,
8. But some may say, I have mistaken the way myself, although I take upon me to teach it to others. It is probable many will think this, and it is very possible that I have. But I trust, whereinsoever I have mistaken, my mind is open to conviction. I sincerely desire to be better informed. I say to God and man, "What I know not, teach thou me?"

9. Are you persuaded you see more clearly than me? It is not unlikely that you may. Then treat me as you would desire to be treated yourself upon a change of circumstances. Point me out a better way than I have yet known. Show me it is so, by plain proof of Scripture. And if I linger in the path I have been accustomed to tread, and am therefore unwilling to leave it, labour with me a little; take me by the hand, and lead me as I am able to bear. But be not displeased if I entreat you not to beat me down in order to quicken my pace: I can go but feebly and slowly at best; then, I should not be able to go at all. May I not request of you, farther, not to give me hard names in order to bring me into the right way. Suppose I were ever so much in the wrong, I doubt not this would not set me right. Rather, it would make me run so much the farther from you, and so get more and more out of the way.

10. Nay, perhaps, if you are angry, so shall I be too; and then there will be small hopes of finding the truth. If once anger arise, "like the smoke", (as Homer somewhere expresses it, [Iliad, XVIII, 110]), this smoke will so dim the eyes of my soul, that I shall be able to see nothing clearly. For God's sake, if it be possible to avoid it, let us not provoke one another to wrath. Let us not kindle, in each other this fire of hell; much less blow it up into a flame. If we could discern truth by that dreadful light, would it not be loss, rather than gain? For, how far is love, even with many wrong opinions, to be preferred before truth itself without love! We may die without the knowledge of many truths, and yet be carried into Abraham's bosom. But if we die without love, what will knowledge avail? Just as much as it avails the devil and his angels!

The God of love forbid we should ever make the trial! May he prepare us for the knowledge of all truth, by filling our hearts with all his love, and with all joy and peace in believing!

From John Wesley's (1746) Preface to his Sermons
  • dwatkins
    Epic Win. :)
    by dwatkins at 08/22/09 6:34PM

Take a second, this is great. :)




Oh, and by the way, CAMP WAS GREAT! Best ever. Thank you all. :-)
  • dwatkins
    That's pretty cool!
    by dwatkins at 07/26/09 8:06AM
  • anutty
    I just hope that the parents and the grandparents knew before they did it. That might have been a heart attack waiting to happen!
    by anutty at 07/26/09 8:31AM
  • joyfulsong
    I'm glad you had a good week. I'm looking forward to seeing you soon. Love you!
    by joyfulsong at 07/26/09 3:42PM
  • joyfulsong
    I've seen that wedding video several times. It looks like a lot of fun. They were on the Today show recently talking about it and had the whole wedding party there reinacting the dance.
    by joyfulsong at 07/26/09 3:44PM
  • rachel_jeanne
    i love you so so so much!! (: cant wait until winter camp!! will you by chance happen to be at the kleinwood singing??
    by rachel_jeanne at 07/27/09 8:32AM
  • rachel_jeanne
    bummerrr :( but oh well i guess. i still think that one saturday everyone in our cabin (or as many people as we can get) should meet halfway for lunch or something! i love you so so so much!! :)
    by rachel_jeanne at 07/27/09 7:07PM
  • chelstee
    LOVE YOU!
    by chelstee at 07/28/09 2:06PM
  • chelstee
    THAT VIDEO IS SO GREAT. I am so doing that. :) :) :)
    by chelstee at 07/28/09 11:03PM
  • runningblind17
    isnt babymaking supposed to happen AFTER theyre married?
    by runningblind17 at 07/31/09 1:26PM
  • campmagicman
    I've heard of this but it's the first time I've seen it. I'd say they were having a good time!
    by campmagicman at 07/31/09 2:39PM
  • campmagicman
    I was good to see you all as well...great weekend!
    by campmagicman at 08/03/09 7:12AM
  • sharon
    That made me laugh out loud. GREAT!!
    by sharon at 08/13/09 9:56PM
  • rachel_jeanne
    i miss you soo much! and thanks, i literally took 40 pics to find one i liked(: when you see joyce tell her i miss her & i love her!
    love you(:
    by rachel_jeanne at 08/20/09 9:40AM

My sister's keeper.

Great movie, believable, much sadness. Alec Baldwin is not my favorite, but he can act.
  • chelstee
    Yes 13 daysssss!!! It's circled on your calandar. :) and you shouldn't be jealous you can get one whenever your heart desires. ;)
    by chelstee at 07/03/09 1:43PM
  • chelstee
    What!? Doug offered you one at Bari's and you said "I don't want one!" haha. P.S. I love you.
    by chelstee at 07/04/09 11:25AM
  • missysnapp
    How long did it take you to memorize the whole book of Col? I'm doing ch 3 right now, but want to add the other chapters too.
    by missysnapp at 07/07/09 7:43AM
  • kyakergirl
    thanks for everything you did to help my girl. She loves you so much. Just one reason why she wouldn't miss camp unless her hair was on fire!
    by kyakergirl at 07/25/09 1:38AM