Main Vein

at 04/30/09 7:04AM

How vain is your main vein? If all I did was write for a living I might be able to come up with a better title than that but just so that we can be clear this post is about our main goals.

Sometimes I feel like I am living far beyond my needs. Not outside my means but above and beyond what's necessary. I have an apartment that most would consider luxury. I have a vehicle that is paid for and I have more hobbies than I know what to do with (mostly because I enjoy being with people). When it comes to food I eat out at "fancy" restaurants several times a week. I know... I'm single so it's ok right? Well, maybe not. Not everyone who is single enjoys the same kind of life that I do. There are greater things I could be doing with my money and spare time because after all... I am single. How many times do you hear people say, "I would do that if I were single." Perhaps we lack confidence to do the things we aspire to do because we don't have the support system to hold us up. I'm talking about a relationship; a relationship gives you strength and courage to face the day. Without God in our lives we would be without a friend. Of course the marriage relationship brings strength and confidence too but what about when she's gone? God will be there to lift you up.

My main objective (vein) is blurred when I lose sight of moderation with respect to earthly possessions. I need to be more and constantly improve my life and not just my way of life. Agree?

I don't enjoy those things, and i am single. It seems you have done better with your money then I have in that past though.
I have been "forced" into a more moderate way of living, but i STILL feel sometimes that I have too much and should simplify even more.

by whipsmile at 04/30/09 8:43AM
The fact that you even consider things like this shows you're a good person who knows true values. : ) A lot of times just the time we give to others is more valuable than money. I'm sure through your friendships and your fellowship with brethren you are giving quite a bit of encouragement and strength. Don't forget that.

by superstar12 at 04/30/09 9:42AM
This is very interesting and definitely something to think about. I don't have a lot of money, so what I do is I try to spend what "time" I have helping and doing for other people. I'm not great at it, but it's definitely something I'm trying to do because I am single and it's easier to do things for others when you don't have anyone but yourself to think about. So I suppose my "time" is my "money"...and I have a lot to work on. I like post Rooster! It's good things to think about. and I'm sorry you don't like that fact that I'll be gone EVERY weekend in May. I suppose you'll just have to get over it. (jk) I'll see you in June. haha.

by rica5219 at 04/30/09 10:26AM
And you were right...it just doesn't seem possible.

by maucknot at 04/30/09 3:24PM
You have an interesting perspective. God blesses us each differently, both materially and in relationships.
I heard an interesting study on NPR recently where they were talking about happiness. In sum, people were either given money to spend on themselves or to spend on others, and those who spent it on others were by far happier. Interesting, hm?

by mjintexas at 04/30/09 3:48PM
I have been thinking on this as well... I just hadn't put a name on it :) It's definitely something I am working on. Good thoughts!

by iamjane at 04/30/09 6:28PM
wow. no i'm not scared of the whole idea of it. i would like to make sure i had the right person. i've seen so many marriages of people i would have never dreamed crumble around me. so no definitely not scared. it's just a very intense thing. one person for they rest of your life. just emphasizing.

by aucowgirl at 04/30/09 6:48PM
also, i really liked this post. the end.

by aucowgirl at 04/30/09 6:54PM
God has truly blessed me too. And sometimes I also feel like I spend way too much of my money and time on myself and earthly things, and not enough to help/serve others. It's so easy to get caught up in fun earthly things, distracting me from the spiritual things. It's definitely something I have to work on.

by elizabethb at 04/30/09 10:20PM
save some of that money bro. you're going to want it when you're not single

by shadow at 05/01/09 8:21AM
*high squeaky voice screaming over the road noise associated with driving 70 mph* "Hey! You goin' to (octave higher)church?!?"

by timstarr at 05/16/09 11:29PM
thanks for the encouraging message

by miss_cleo at 05/22/09 4:24PM
good thoughts...

by tickets at 05/27/09 7:48PM
happy
holidays!

by fullofgrace at 12/24/09 2:10PM

Twists and Turns

at 04/07/09 6:32AM

Well I've selected a position to pursue at work. Turns out my company is in desperate need of field superintendents. I've always leaned toward that direction but hesitated due to the crazy life style that is expected of you. I was encouraged to buy a house in the city that I wanted to live in and be available to work anywhere in the country. We'll see how it goes.

so what city did you choose?

by nina at 04/07/09 8:12AM
wow. that's pretty exciting though.

by whipsmile at 04/07/09 9:19AM
wait- does this mean you're leaving us?!

by rica5219 at 04/07/09 10:09AM
Dallas is a great area for that... just in case you're taking suggestions ;-)

by littlebit at 04/07/09 10:17AM
Cool! I love field work. :)

by mjintexas at 04/07/09 10:37AM
that would rule:) get me a job working with your company:p

by yo at 04/07/09 5:11PM
SAD!!!!

by rica5219 at 04/07/09 11:14PM
dude, i don't care where you go, as long as you're at Opelika Middle School on thursday nights, then i'll be happy! :) and btw, my thumb STILL hurts!!!

by simpwildcat at 04/08/09 9:21AM
And the chosen city is......

by zani128 at 04/09/09 12:48AM
soo...does this mean you're moving back to colorado?!

by elizabethb at 04/09/09 11:34PM
I guess now is a good time to buy! Good luck!

by ryanandnancy at 04/11/09 11:46AM
Haha I should probably expand my vocabulary some ;-)

by musicgurl251 at 04/13/09 10:29AM
no worries!

by elizabethb at 04/14/09 11:22PM
so where'd you choose?

by tickets at 04/20/09 7:10PM
i have no idea? my friend allison just sent it to me and so i had to post it. i love the sound of music so the fact that tons of people dancing to it in a public area is amazing.

by aucowgirl at 04/25/09 1:36PM
since i live in birmingham no. that would be very cool though. let me know how it goes!

by aucowgirl at 04/26/09 3:06PM

Urban Dictionary

at 02/21/09 7:44AM

1. jipology
Jipology is the study of being jipped. Jipology can only exist when a "jip" has occured. It is arguable that being jipped is a jip in itself. Eg: If a man fears that he will be jipped, then he is jipped for fearing that he will get jipped, because he will not be able to perform some tasks in fear that he will become of the jipped. There is a strong corolation between fear and jip. Being jipped can be also described as a paradox and is very hard to comprehend, but once it is comprehended and understood, the one can ascend from being of the jipped, to becoming the jipper.

"Whilst studying jipology, i got jipped"

i always thought it was spelled "gypped"...

by tu_madre at 02/21/09 12:25PM
i always thought it was spelled "gypped"...

by tu_madre at 02/21/09 12:27PM
ha!

by sheliandbrettsmom at 02/21/09 10:04PM
Me too!

by mjintexas at 02/23/09 10:59AM
I'm confused! :-S lol

by kcrxgirl at 02/24/09 11:37AM
I have been studying 'jipology' myself whilst experiencing my annual spring car problems.

by globetrotter at 02/24/09 10:35PM
where did you get this info?

by lefantstaf at 02/25/09 11:08AM
Can I get a Master's degree in Jipology?

by create_a_way at 02/27/09 9:23AM

Arguments

at 01/31/09 7:28AM

It's not healthy to argue in a relationship all the time but sometimes a heated discussion brings out our true feelings that would otherwise not ever be discovered. Arguments can bring the core issue to a boil so that something can actually be done about the problem.

e.g. a co-worker of mine was describing to me how difficult it has been lately to explain to his wife why it's so important that he work all of the time. His position is a very high position in the company so his work IS very important so of course he has a valid point. One day he's in San Diego the next in DC, so traveling is a big part of his job as well. His wife's perspective is of course much different.

In her view, if he's so high up in the company why can't he assign other people to travel all the time and work the ridiculous hours? Well that wouldn't be fair he responds, they both have young children at home, "how could I ask them to give up that kind of time with their families?" Here's where the real stinger hits, the wife drives the final nail in the coffin with this one, she said, "why not...? You always gave up time with our kids for work?" Nough said, he loses the argument but gains a very important perspective on what’s been going on in her mind for the past 10 years. I guess since arguing is unpleasant we tend to avoid it, but if you’re arguing with someone you love sometimes its plum necessary.

That’s what I think.

Interesting...I guess he didn't anticipate that response!

by megan at 01/31/09 8:44AM
work is a choice...

by joe at 01/31/09 12:49PM
Well arguing might be more effective if we stuck to the point and didn't resort to pulling out all the old baggage. Since most of us do that I don't think its very effective.

by beckylboyer at 01/31/09 4:13PM
I'm sure she probably mentioned it at the time, but he probably wasn't listening back then:-) How's the cooking going?

by nina at 01/31/09 8:02PM
Thank you so much Josh! I am doing pretty good. I have been very good of my new eating plan (no sugar and no yeast..uhg!) still trying to tweak a few more things but all is well so far. It's easy to start the hardest part is sticking to it (having endurance)! How are things going for you?

by lw at 02/01/09 3:27PM
Agreed. A lot of it is about different priorities. :)

by mjintexas at 02/02/09 12:44PM
Conflict can be both good and bad depending upon the attitudes and behavior of the participants. Sometimes, conflict brings knowledge, clarity and resolution to problems. Sometimes, it just creates more problems. The old adage of "disagree without being disagreeable" has some merit.

by maucknot at 02/02/09 4:23PM
that's really quite a story.

by create_a_way at 02/03/09 9:32AM
I agree with you.

by butterflyhomerachel at 02/04/09 7:45PM
Alright! You have learned a biggie married truth WITHOUT having to figure it out the hard way! Ok, single ladies, pay attention here...
;)

by angenymity at 02/05/09 4:01PM
Yeh, Kelly has been really sick through the whole pregnancy- and the doctors have given her some more medicine since she lost the baby that's continuing to make her sick, but she said hopefully they'll be at church Sunday morning, kind of depends on how she's feeling. They've been there, but they normally jet out real quick afterwards.

by rica5219 at 02/06/09 9:26AM
without conflict, there can be no growth...I should be around for at least most of the summer :)

by miss_cleo at 02/06/09 6:10PM
Yum...sounds like a great start! Hope you are doing well.

by nina at 02/09/09 9:37PM

Reflection

at 01/03/09 8:40AM

According to my facebook status I've been "reflecting" for the past few days. I'll be 30 years old next year and it's high time that I start doing the things that my body will soon be too old to do. I'm talking of course about body building, professional football, and things like the winter olympics etc...

But seriously I've finally started cooking a few nights a week. I've tried to stop making excuses for why I don't know how to cook. I was recently informed by a co-worker of mine that you can marry just about any girl if you know how to build a house and cook. I've been building things for over 10 years but my knowledge in the kitchen is just embarrassing. I have a lot to learn, even when it comes to the grill.

Secondly, I resolve to visit a chiropractor and map out a plan to make some adjustments to my spine. Like my 6 month teeth cleaning at the dentist I have neglected it for too long. I can't let in get any worse if I'm to ever accomplish the above mentioned goals.

Finally, reflection has caused me to think that moving to Columbus, GA was definitely not in my plans this time last year. It really makes me wonder what God has in store for me in 2009. I pray whatever comes that faith and perseverance will win the day.

Hope you made some resolutions this year too. I'd love to hear about them if you did.

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I'm glad someone caught the Kung Foo Panda reference. I made some rockin hamburgers on the 1st while the rest of the family was eating black-eyed peas.

by shadow at 01/03/09 12:11PM
you are a heathen... and thanks for that- loners, stragglers...rightttt- more like kids who have to work! haha. If I had known you were in Columbus we totally would have had a party!

by rica5219 at 01/03/09 1:09PM
Watch Food Network - it's inspiring.

by DessertDiva at 01/03/09 2:22PM
I am dealing with a few health issues that hopefully will be resloved by a strick eating plan. As much as I am dreading this new eating lifestyle I know I must stick to it in order to feel my best. I know it would be hard to take care of little ones (which we would like in the near future!) feeling like I do right now. I am reminded of a story you told me once about your dad. I remember he got diabites and you told me how he got up and exercised everyday. You were so amazed at his drive to feel good and how he knew this was just what he HAD to do. You also told me how he would recite Bible verses on his runs. Not sure if you remember that story, but it is a good one to remember. Even things like cooking and taking better care of yourself (me included) can be accomplished through God. Brad and I have been praying daily for strength and courage that I can do this new eating plan well :) Happy New Year!

by lw at 01/03/09 2:38PM
Happy New Year Josh! I think you are correct in realizing God is in control. Even when we don't understand why things happen the way they do, usually it eventually makes sense and then we can say "so that is why God made things happen that way"!

by nancyjo at 01/03/09 5:07PM
Women do like a man that can cook. I think my husband cooked more often and much better than I did when we were both single. I've come around, though.

Maybe you and Robbie could swap recipes.

by jimandtyra at 01/03/09 5:49PM
Funny coincidence! Yeah, my back bothers me sometimes, and has ever since I worked at Sam's back in college. We had to do some lifting, and my back's never seemed right since. So going to the chiro. has crossed my mind at times, but I'm just a little leary. I've heard so many success stories, and I'm a really naturally-minded person, so I don't know what my problem is. I think I just have trust issues! :P

by jess at 01/03/09 7:47PM
Ha! I just told my mom today that I was going to try a chiropractor! It makes me feel old...

by email at 01/03/09 7:48PM
I gotta say there is something about having a guy make dinner for you! Good luck on that. I'm sure you won't regret being able to cook even if you aren't the best at it!

by crazy_mama at 01/03/09 8:41PM
Guys that cook are indeed hot. Building a house = hotter. Your friend is dead on.

by mjintexas at 01/05/09 11:09AM
Learning how to make at least a few dishes is a good idea. Someday when you're married, your wife will come home from a long day and just not feel like cooking. And you'll be able to say to her "Don't worry about it, I'll cook tonight." And you will be her hero! :)

by kcrxgirl at 01/05/09 12:03PM
Good luck with learning how to cook! I am determined to teach my son how to cook because it's so true that a future wife will definitely appreciate that! I hate 6 month dental cleanings, it takes all my willpower not to cancel them when they come around. Happy New Year!

by stylinmama at 01/05/09 4:49PM
hope you had a great time here in CO. too bad we couldn't get together for a fun filled evening of hand and foot!! Maybe next time :) I just had my 30th bday, and is wierd leaving the 20's behind and starting a new decade! I need to greatly improve my kitched skills as well! :)

by elizabethb at 01/05/09 7:06PM
I love your resolutions! You always make me laugh and smile at your posts. Wish we would have been better friends at FC. You crack me up. But, seriously...I think men who cook are awesome and most girls are pretty impressed. If you can cook and build...you'll be snatched up quick. Best wishes for a great 2009! Get your teeth cleaned and your eyes checked and have a regularly scheduled doctor appointment. Going to the Chiro rocks! (Or maybe it cracks! he he) Here's to good health!

by butterflyhomerachel at 01/08/09 7:59PM
I went down to Colorado Springs New Year's Eve with my family. I saw your mom at church. She is so sweet.

by kittyhawk at 01/16/09 10:50AM
Nope, Josh, I am NOT pregnant! LOL

by butterflyhomerachel at 01/17/09 8:38AM
thanks Josh!!!! I appreciate it.

by rica5219 at 01/17/09 11:06AM
I still haven't gone sky-diving!!! Someday though, someday :) And no, I wasn't riding the bulls, I was simply the fan and photographer while my friends rode!

by lynz at 01/20/09 12:36PM
Good luck with your goals! I certainly don't know everything about cooking, but if you need any help, let me know!

by ryanandnancy at 01/27/09 1:11PM

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