Partners

When I married Brian, I knew that he was the type of person who wouldn't shrink back from life...and that our lives together would be full of adventure and joy.

What I couldn't have known for sure is what a sweet father he would be, and how much his partnership in parenting would mean. Lazarus is now 7 weeks old (!) and is thriving. He is fully surrounded by love, and my dear husband is such a vital part of this family equation. He leads us in sweetness and joy, and the magic that Lazarus brings to our house is amplified by Brian's fatherhood.

In light of this blessing, I have looked around these past few weeks and am amazed at women or men who do this job of parenting alone.

Today I am thanking God for this man of His and mind, and for providing children with what they need, and for strengthening those who parent without a partner.


EMB
  • hoose
    I am so happy for you... the thought of you and your family is refreshing to my soul! I hope God blesses me enough to find the same thing. And thank you so much for telling me about your parents outside of Lexington. I have a friend who just placed membership at the Danville church, so I hope to be visiting there every now and then. I will definitely keep your parents in mind.
    by hoose at 07/04/10 11:21PM
  • littlebit
    It's amazing to me to know how integral a father really is in a child's life. I guess I didn't realize that until we had our own little one. Isn't it wonderful to see your husband being sweet with your baby? I love that part of being a mommy :-)
    by littlebit at 07/04/10 11:32PM
  • whipsmile
    :-)
    by whipsmile at 07/06/10 6:34PM
  • crazy_mama
    A helpful, loving, Godly husband is a marvelous thing! So glad you have one! I know I don't know what I'd do without mine. The older my kids get, the more I realize how God designed the family perfectly and how each parent is needed.
    by crazy_mama at 07/09/10 7:49AM
  • ed
    yeah, being a dad is stinkin cool! i bet brian is a good one.
    by ed at 07/12/10 6:15AM
  • friedaj
    *Perfect* in every way
    by friedaj at 07/13/10 3:12PM
  • dressednyella
    Godly husbands/fathers are such an incredible blessing. You expressed so beautifully how their contribution to the family is unmatched. I am thankful you have Brian, that he has you, and that you are sharing this incredible journey together. Praise God for little ones who bring us such immeasurable joy!
    by dressednyella at 07/19/10 11:01PM
  • ed
    won't i be surprised whenever i find out??? :D i reckon we'll find out via ultrasound, but who knows.
    by ed at 07/21/10 3:25PM
  • hoose
    I am in Lexington! Let me know next time you are coming to town; I will drop everything to make sure that we see each other!
    by hoose at 08/11/10 3:32AM
  • hoose
    I have not heard of "Irresistable Revolution," but I'll look into it! Hope you are doing well!
    by hoose at 09/27/10 9:25PM

Baby

Lazarus is here!!!!! And life will never be the same!

He joined us on Wednesday at 3:08 a.m. (after my water broke around 3 a.m. on Tuesday). He is 7 pounds, 11 ounces; 22 inches long. Perfect in every way....God has opened our lives and hearts up in ways I never imagined were possible. He truly does bless us beyond what we can ask or think. Please join me in praising Him for keeping us safe, and even for granting us the type of birth experience that we prayed for. I believe that it was because of His help, and the prayers of the saints, that things went as they did. And, hopefully our son will be a lifelong credit to this truth....Lazarus means "God helps." And so his name is Lazarus Mercy Barger. Please ask God that He will support us in doing everything we can to help the life of Lazarus be an opus to his Creator, a reflection of the Beloved Son, Jesus.

Because I am too busy falling in love with our son to update more than one spot, please check Facebook for pictures.

Sending love to you all!

Erin
  • whipsmile
    congrats!
    by whipsmile at 05/15/10 9:36PM
  • navydoc
    Congratulations! May God bless your family.
    by navydoc at 05/16/10 12:18AM
  • friedaj
    Good for Lazarus! Congratulations to you all. I am so happy for you
    by friedaj at 05/16/10 1:25AM
  • sparky
    congrats
    by sparky at 05/16/10 5:34AM
  • crazy_mama
    Congrats on baby Lazarus! I love his name and the meaning behind it. What a special thought to carry with him through his life. God bless Lazarus!
    by crazy_mama at 05/16/10 5:37AM
  • beckdobbins
    Congrats!!!!
    by beckdobbins at 05/16/10 7:19PM
  • bigdeborah
    Yayy!!!!!! Definitely will say a prayer of thanks!! So incredibly happy for yall!
    by bigdeborah at 05/17/10 2:04PM
  • ed
    so every morning, do you look at him and say, 'Lazarus, Rise Up!!' bc i would have to do that. love y'all and we're very happy for you!
    by ed at 05/17/10 3:20PM
  • sheshe
    I am so happy for you!
    by sheshe at 05/19/10 4:21PM
  • dressednyella
    What a beautiful post. Rejoicing with you!
    by dressednyella at 05/22/10 6:25AM
  • tortilla
    still waiting for more pics!!!
    I will call you soon!!!!
    by tortilla at 05/27/10 11:36PM

Sweetness

Our baby has very politely and punctually decided to start entering the world on his/er due date! We have started the labor process and hope to introduce you to him/er in the next few days!

Please pray that our baby will enter the world in calm and grace, and that God is glorified throughout this process.

With love,
Erin
  • navydoc
    I hope everything goes well!
    by navydoc at 05/11/10 5:24PM
  • rachierach
    Will be praying!
    by rachierach at 05/11/10 5:32PM
  • whipsmile
    praying!!!!
    by whipsmile at 05/11/10 5:35PM
  • jodimn
    Very exciting!!
    by jodimn at 05/11/10 6:13PM
  • ed
    i'm already ready for another update!! love y'all and we'll be praying!
    by ed at 05/12/10 11:49AM
  • beckdobbins
    congrats!
    by beckdobbins at 05/12/10 1:30PM
  • bigdeborah
    I just saw this and said a prayer...hopefully Baby B has already made his/her entrance and you are holding a beautiful baby in your arms at this moment!!!
    by bigdeborah at 05/12/10 4:19PM
  • crazy_mama
    Congrats! Waiting for an update and some pictures!
    by crazy_mama at 05/12/10 5:19PM
  • bravedave
    I saw that you've read Ed Wheat's book---is that the 3-in-1 book? I've read it too. Great suggestion.
    by bravedave at 05/12/10 5:27PM
  • kellymckibkib
    whoohoooo! got your text! awesome! I cant wait to meet Lazarus!
    by kellymckibkib at 05/12/10 10:28PM
  • annabrett
    Wooohoooo! Now pictures??????
    by annabrett at 05/12/10 11:20PM
  • friedaj
    I'm sitting on pins and needles waiting to be introduced......
    by friedaj at 05/14/10 5:04PM

Waiting and enjoying

Brian and I are anxiously awaiting our introduction to Baby Barger...we are at 38 weeks which means that moment of introduction could come at any time. It's funny to see all of our guests at the community kitchen look at me with intense apprehension. For those with limited birth experience, I believe they are expecting my water to break at any moment and that I will call on one of them to deliver...obviously, they don't realize that most first births take several hours and are not emergencies. It's funny to see how differently people react to a very expectant mother.

The shower was great! It was the most "to the point" shower I have ever experienced (but yet, was very gracious and warm). No games, no shenanigans...we came, we ate, we opened presents, visited, and departed. For a lady with a 37 weeks baby belly, I had no complaints that no games were played. Three of my 4 nieces were there, which was such a gift. Also, my niece Hannah was accepted at UGA, so she will be our Athens neighbor. The week was complete with baby shower AND a college tour. We are very blessed.

And speaking of blessings, diapers: cloth or disposable, or both?

  • kaceyatthebat
    We do cloth and love it. There's a great group on here if you want an invite.
    by kaceyatthebat at 04/27/10 11:21PM
  • crazy_mama
    When I was pregnant with our 2nd, I had to renew our car insurance a week before my due date. I was with our oldest daughter and we were running errands all day and I was feeling great. I got to the insurance place and the lady helping us acted like I was going to go into labor any second. And she acted like if I started having labor pains the baby would come out in like 2 seconds. She kept asking if I felt alright and kept telling me she would hurry up so I could leave and told me over and over again that I shouldn't be driving in my condition and kept telling me how she didn't know how to help me if I needed to have the baby. She was so unglued over this she could hardly renew us! Lucky for her, Maleia was born at the birth center 4 days later. That was the day that I realized I looked like a walking time bomb and that girl at the insurance place was crazy! Hang in there Erin! Can't wait to hear all about the new baby!!!!
    by crazy_mama at 04/28/10 7:55AM
  • bigdeborah
    Both....I think?? :) we planned on using cloth but there are so many choices with cloth diapers that I felt overwhelmed and didn't know which ones to get. So, now he is 4.5 months old and I finally made it to the store to check them all ou last week and bought a couple to see if I liked them. I bought pocket diapers, but I think I would prefer prefolds, so I'm going back next week to buy a few of those and try them out. When travelling, I still plan to use disposable.
    by bigdeborah at 04/28/10 2:02PM
  • ed
    technically we do both. We go with cloth the vast majority of the time, but disposables do happen sometimes. sposables are mainly just for travelling in our clan. And I remember similar experiences with getting odd looks for Laine when she was 8months plus!
    by ed at 04/28/10 2:38PM
  • whipsmile
    great new pic!
    by whipsmile at 04/28/10 7:54PM
  • rachierach
    I admire those who have used clothed because it requires a lot more cleaning... but, I totally went disposable. It's so easy when you're out and about.
    by rachierach at 04/28/10 8:58PM
  • friedaj
    You look beautiful.
    by friedaj at 04/29/10 5:31AM
  • jhuntley
    cloth full-time, except when traveling. totally grosses me out now to use disposables, even the few times that we do. but then, i tend to go for the more classic, old-fashioned lifestyle choices, so that's just me. :)
    by jhuntley at 05/01/10 6:33AM
  • jodimn
    Wow! So exciting:) Congrats to you:)

    With our first we used disposable. With our second we used cloth and LOVED it:)
    by jodimn at 05/01/10 7:52PM
  • kellymckibkib
    awwww! I am so happy for you! I have a wedding shower tomorrow and I hope there will be some funny games. b/c its a jack and jill party and it woudl be fun to tease Mark! heehee I am horrible! But in my defense he is not ticklish and I should get my fun where I can!
    by kellymckibkib at 05/02/10 12:04AM
  • crazy_mama
    Yep that was totally crazy! Can't wait to hear all about the baby.
    by crazy_mama at 05/09/10 5:57AM

Shower the people you love...with love

First baby shower coming up this weekend....any funny shower stories or advice?
  • whipsmile
    sorry, no baby shower stories from me. :-)
    Have fun though!!!
    by whipsmile at 04/13/10 5:55PM
  • littlebit
    Bring envelopes for your thank you cards... have everyone at the shower address one to themselves. It makes things SO much easier when you're not having to dig for addresses :-) Enjoy it- it's so much fun :-)
    by littlebit at 04/13/10 5:59PM
  • friedaj
    Awwww. Enjoy it.
    by friedaj at 04/13/10 8:49PM
  • isabeau_danjou
    Just keep smiling! Your face will hurt afterward, but the pictures will look great (and there will be a lot of them). :)
    by isabeau_danjou at 04/13/10 9:12PM
  • bigdeborah
    We were in CA for about 3 years, but we moved to IL (right across the line from St. Louis) in October.
    by bigdeborah at 04/14/10 12:55AM
  • ed
    i've never been showered. :(
    by ed at 04/15/10 1:49AM
  • kellymckibkib
    May I have your address please?
    by kellymckibkib at 04/17/10 7:45PM
  • dressednyella
    Oh how exciting! Tell us all about it! :)
    by dressednyella at 04/19/10 4:51PM
  • julied93
    Amanda told me you were expecting. Congratulations & God bless!
    by julied93 at 04/23/10 9:17PM