Nesting Progress...




It only took two hours to bring all our items from the old apartment to the new one. Fastest move ever (especially after the few cross-country ones). Cheryl stayed till past dinner helping me put things away and organizing my closet while I laid on the bed drinking a bottle of water. The first night was challenging, Bison was upset about everything and with me being pregnant and hormonal - I carried his mooing self around the house till he started purring again.

This has been our home for 3 days, and they've settled in and found special spots to feel cozy. Brian likes this place better than the old one. He says it feels like home, and the other place felt like an apartment. I think it's the wood paneling. ;) We just have a small load of items to bring to CT to store in Brian's parents barn, and a couple bags to bring to the thrift store, and a quick run to Ikea for a few organizational needs...and all my nesting projects will be complete. I'm hoping to finish organizing the living room and bedroom tomorrow and take pictures of those rooms. If my body will allow it.



Pregnancy Update: I was concerned about water retention, but at my Doctor appointment yesterday my blood pressure was great. I'm thankful for that, even though I cried for an hour after getting weighed. My midwife hugged me and handed me kleenex after kleenex while I bawled. She told me she could tell my surplus weight gain was definitely water/swelling and I would lose that quickly, and it's not something I could have prevented. I haven't failed, I haven't let myself go...my body is just really puffy all over. I am drinking a lot of water, I am eating less salt, plenty of protein, and vitamin C. I take my vitamins every day, which has B vitamins which are good for swelling. I'm soaking in salt baths, propping my feet up, etc. I was feeling beautiful and confident and great until I saw that number on the scale, and then I felt ashamed and depressed and unworthy of love. I'm sure there's a lesson about where true beauty lies in all of this for me to learn so I can teach it to our boy. And I keep telling myself that no one needs to know how much weight I've gained, or what I weighed at the end... And Brian is supportive and loving and sweet. I've got a lot to be thankful for.
  • raifhaus
    These photos make me happy. Good work!! Thinking of you...
    by raifhaus at 03/27/13 8:19PM
  • bestill
    Oh, I feel for you. I gained A LOT my first pregnancy, half my prepregnancy body weight. I had a lot of swelling. It adds a lot to the scale, but it is NOT fat! That IS the kind that does come right off after the baby is born. THE important thing is that you are healthy. I am so thankful that your BP is not elevated. Yes, keep your feet up. It will help relieve discomfort in them. I hope I can help put your mind at ease. This is weight you don't need to worry about.
    by bestill at 03/27/13 10:08PM
  • bestill
    PS...I am so happy for you and your new apartment. You two are so wise to manage your finances at this time this way. I'm impressed!
    by bestill at 03/27/13 10:09PM
  • uogir
    I LOVE that shower curtain! The swelling messes with your emotions. "I look fat, but it's not fat..." My last few weeks were a struggle. A good husband is such a blessing and mine was/is wonderful. Brian is wonderful too I'm sure. So glad your nesting is going well.
    by uogir at 03/28/13 9:53AM
  • comade
    I had the most retained water with Meredith and I lost ALL of that SO quickly. I was peeing constantly and had night sweats after having her.
    by comade at 03/28/13 10:02AM
  • mjintexas
    The apartment looks great! So happy for you that it was a smooth transition for the most part, and that you're feeling settled there. Hope it's the perfect home for you. :)
    by mjintexas at 03/28/13 10:06AM
  • sarahmarcelle
    Very cute! Glad the moving in has gone well!
    by sarahmarcelle at 03/28/13 12:08PM
  • jenlew21
    Been there peaches!! :0 It does come off quicker than you think s long as you eat and when up to it exercise a lil. ;)
    by jenlew21 at 03/28/13 1:57PM
  • sarasponda
    I gained a lot of weight with Emily and just started getting on the scale backwards at the doctors office. Or I just requested that they not tell me the number (I didn't look). Don't worry, it all comes back off. : ) With both my kids I was back to pre-pregnancy weight in 3 weeks.
    by sarasponda at 03/30/13 6:51PM
  • zsha_zsha
    Love the bathroom shower curtain! :)
    by zsha_zsha at 04/08/13 7:58PM

New Apartment: Before

I'm hoping all our furniture will fit, while still keeping this cozy space airy and bright. It's a basement level apartment, so I'm trying to come up with creative ideas to reflect as much natural light around as I can. Moving in 3 days. Full term in 10 days. I hope my nest is organized and ready for baby before he gets here.



I'll post "after" pictures once we're moved in and everything is looking pretty...
  • mjintexas
    I still need to make my "before and after" albums! I kinda like how houses/apartments look empty- it's like a blank canvas, waiting to be filled.:)
    by mjintexas at 03/20/13 2:36PM
  • jenlew21
    Yikes! Woman! Don't overdo it!! ;)
    by jenlew21 at 03/20/13 2:57PM
  • dawnmk23
    I pray for many wonderful memories in your new cute little house.
    by dawnmk23 at 03/20/13 3:12PM
  • robynbobm
    So are the windows just above ground level?
    by robynbobm at 03/21/13 2:13AM
  • jaydon
    Love the open-ness of the kitchen and living room. I know you will do a great job!
    by jaydon at 03/21/13 7:30AM
  • spinningbee
    Yes Robyn the windows peek thru bushes in the living room and kitchen, and toward the parking lot in the bedroom. I've ordered some foggy window cling for the bedroom windows for privacy. When we get big snows in the winter it's going to be a cave. I'll put little white lights up in the windows to make winter feel special and cozy instead of dark and dreary. I'm also hoping that the neighborhood squirrels will allow me to keep windows open in the spring/summer. We've had squirrels break into our 2nd floor apartment thru the kitchen window. Good for nuthin cats.
    by spinningbee at 03/21/13 10:03AM
  • zsha_zsha
    When baby arrives, or even before if you prefer, Bekah, Hannah, and I want to go over and help you! I know your family will be helping, but if you need us, you know all you have to do is ask! :)
    by zsha_zsha at 03/25/13 8:11AM
  • mountaingirl
    I'd love to come clean you tub... or any other excuse to come visit! ... ;)
    by mountaingirl at 03/27/13 12:22PM

Fresh Start.

Yesterday I called our landlord to see if it would be possible for 2 adults, a baby, and 3 lazy cats to move into a 1 bedroom that just became available about a week ago. They said that would be fine so I went over to look at the apartment and the layout is really smart. The living area is big, the bathroom is large, the kitchen is a bit small, and the bedroom is adequate. It's 575ft. The rent would help us balance our budget. I'd be able to relax and sink into my role as a mother more - and have less stress to financially contribute. Just giving up 150ft of space will save us almost $4,000 a year. Welcome to Boston!

I'm excited to live in a small space without the usual "how are we going to buy food" and "I need to make $300 in the next 48 hours to pay rent" - the past 13 months have been brutal. God has come thru every time, but it has been such a roller-coaster of faith and my lack of faith. We waited over a year for Harvard to unfreeze raises they promised to Brian when he was hired... but it isn't happening (some union/HR negotiation gone sour) so it's time to simplify and downsize.

So these next couple weeks I'm packing up our apartment and we're moving across the parking lot. I've got the new nest organized and ready in my head. Pregnancy "nesting" hormones are amazing for moving. I feel like I could get the whole thing done myself in about 45 minutes if heavy lifting wasn't so ergonomically ridiculous.

I will be in my 37th week when we're in the new place. I hope that my energy level stays high so I can finish everything I've got on my plate before the boy comes.
  • schmidtkins
    Don't overdo, Ashley! Take it from one who overdoes it all the time - DON'T do it! BUT, I am so excited for you that this will take some pressure off and be better for you all. The LORD always provides, doesn't He?
    by schmidtkins at 03/14/13 11:06AM
  • dawnmk23
    So glad you have found a way to make it all work. You guys will find a way! Also, please let you local Christians help you with everything you need for the baby. I am sure they already have, but don't be shy about needs. Also, have you considered cloth diapering your little one? I have lots of info. on that one if you are interested. I may even have some prefolds/covers if you are interested!. :0)
    by dawnmk23 at 03/14/13 11:19AM
  • holly_ann
    I'm glad that worked out and that huge weight will be lifted from you. We lived in a 575 sq ft 1 bedroom apartment for several years and loved it. Cozy :) Now that we have a house, we still pretty much stick to 1 room because we are so used to small spaces :)
    by holly_ann at 03/14/13 8:27PM
  • Tambi
    Happy for you two! We moved once when I was 9 month pregnant and had three small kids. :/ Don't do too much!
    by Tambi at 03/18/13 12:50AM
  • robynbobm
    I'm glad for you. ♥
    by robynbobm at 03/19/13 6:18PM

Adventure.

Life is an adventure. 3 years ago we were financially set, we could have bought a house. We had so much in savings that we lived off of it for almost 2 years.

For the past 6 months it's been one financial crisis after another. It's almost to the point of ridiculousness/hilarity. At least I try to see it that way, because having a little man rolling in my belly with huge bills piling up in the mail isn't what I had so carefully prepared and planned for. I thought we had played our cards right in this life, to avoid situations like this. You'd think waiting 10 years to have kids, never having credit cards, making smart financial choices and living frugally would end up...I dunno. Paying off?

I thought I was "managing my household well".
I thought I was rockin the Proverbs 31 like a boss.

As it turns out...we've landed exactly where I was hoping to avoid: a little nest of debt right before baby comes, with no clear way to dig out.

Please say a prayer for us that we will make the right choices. I wish I could peek into the future to see what the best financial stewardship options would be... I wish I could hear God whisper what His plan is in all of this. I'm trying not to freak out and worry. I'm trying to allow this situation to grow and stabilize my faith and grow some fruit.

"But the worries of the world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the desires for other things enter in and choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful." Mark 4:19

I'm just...really disappointed.
  • dehutmom
    Once, when Bruce and I were having a difficult parenting moment we sought the wisdom of an older, Christian couple we admired. During the course of our conversation the sweet wife made the comment, "God allowed this to happen." That very short sentence carries with it something powerful. It reminds us (It certainly reminded me) that for all the plans we can make for ourselves, all the preparation, all the dreams we can have in this life are but nothing compared to where God wants to "take us".

    God wants to take you somewhere, Ashley. He has a plan for you and for Brian and for your sweet son and He wants to take you somewhere you might not go willingly. As a matter of fact, if you truly could see down the road to 'see' what He has for you there, you might not appreciate it at this moment, where you are right now. :) :)

    Because of the hard work , the good work you and Brian have done up to this point things most likely aren't as bad as they could be. :) It's ok to feel disappointed. You may be feeling disappointment at the death of 'your' dream at just the moment God wants you to reach out and grab hold of "HIS" dream for you. :) :)

    Trust.

    You are in the last weeks of your very first pregnancy. :) You are mere weeks from meeting face-to-face your first born son. :)
    You have some important business to be about and that is preparing yourself over the next few weeks to have a safe and healthy delivery. While ultimately God is in control there are things we can do to contribute. :) I am so excited for you in the coming weeks and especially next month at your 'arrival' time. :)

    Here's hoping that tomorrow will bring you the 'peace that passes all understanding'. And that it will be with you for the next few weeks as you waddle towards your due date. :D

    I look forward to meeting your son when I'm out at the end of next month. :) Until then...ever climbing higher... :)

    by dehutmom at 03/12/13 11:25PM
  • thewifeofbud
    ^So well said! *Hugs*
    by thewifeofbud at 03/13/13 9:22AM
  • beavermom
    Linda speaks wisdom. And you will be just fine, you always are. Sometimes God doesn't show up with the answers to our fears until we get to the point that we realize that He was with us the whole way, just waiting for us to ask Him, and knowing He is all we need. Love you girl!
    by beavermom at 03/13/13 12:16PM

Arts & Crafts Auction

I'm auctioning off a lot of stuff from my studio that I love but never use/wear and am passing on to whoever would enjoy it. I've got so much of everything, as I've been cleaning stuff out it's been like The Widows Oil. It just keeps growing and growing and I can't believe I had so much craft stuff. I feel a little sad getting rid of things I love, but I also feel happy to have a cleaner space and more room and not so many bins full of so many pretty things I never use. It was just too much... Too much pretty and not enough time to enjoy it all.

If you're interested, here's a sneak peek of what I'll be listing today. The auction is on my Facebook Page: Click Here to Join