Serving simply stated

Serving simply stated

This is my latest blog on Carpe Diem Mom. I took a poll to find out what young moms wanted to read about and this was the consensus! I hope you'll drop by!

This week we have a wonderful set of visitors coming to our home!!! Dave and Joanne will be coming to the Perz Bed and Breakfast :). Dave is preaching for us on Wednesday night, so if you are in the area, we'd love to have you visit! We also have a girls' study on Friday night! We are embarking on a set of three studies that I'm designing by the girls' request! I have just cherished this time with the girls and moms! The participation is wonderful, the feedback encouraging! Such a blessing!

We are so blessed and busy! God is good! Love to all!
  • beavermom
    Good reminders! I envy your girls studies! :)
    by beavermom at 01/21/13 3:47AM
  • jaydon
    I wished we lived closer - I would love for me and my girl to attend your girls studies!
    by jaydon at 01/21/13 9:51AM
  • lovescats
    I would love to go down there, but I'm dealing with an ill Domino right now whom I have to feed via syringe (wrote about him on my page), so I need to stay here.

    Hope all goes well - I'm sure it will!
    by lovescats at 01/21/13 10:46AM
  • sirtarin
    Good blog post. :)
    by sirtarin at 01/21/13 2:37PM
  • marmee
    Enjoy them. Did you know she is my son-in-law's aunt? Small world. :)
    by marmee at 01/21/13 2:54PM
  • dawnmk23
    Sounds awesome! Also, loved your article on serving. Very nice!
    by dawnmk23 at 01/21/13 5:56PM
  • tommyswife
    Beautiful cpm post! It is amazing to me that as time goes on serving becomes easier, more recognizable, and just plain fun. The more you do it the better you get!
    by tommyswife at 01/22/13 8:31AM
  • canardmom23
    I always think that if one could "unknowingly have entertained angels" then the work they were doing at the time must have seemed small to them. If something so small as 'unknowingly' being done could have such high esteem in the bible, then motherhood certainly is a big service.
    Loved the quotes at the bottom of your blog.
    by canardmom23 at 01/22/13 9:58AM
  • firebolt
    I love this blog entry!! Such a wonderful topic and you are a fabulous hostess. We love the times we have visited your home!! :)
    by firebolt at 01/25/13 11:29PM
  • schmidtkins
    Thank you so much!
    by schmidtkins at 03/21/13 2:18PM

Happy Birthday, Julia!

Julia is now 13.

This is from my Facebook tribute : (go to the FB page for pictures)

Happy Birthday to Julia Perz! 13 years ago in WI, we welcomed Julia Miriam Perz into our family. To say that she has been a blessing just doesn't fully describe the love and joy she has brought into our home. Julia has a servant's heart and brings her own sunshine whereever she goes! God has blessed us so abundantly and, today especially, I am utterly thankful for His gift of our fourth daughter. She is growing into a lovely young lady! She will bring smiles to Facebook, of that I am certain! Here are some pictures of Julia throughout the years!

I'll be sharing a link to my next blog soon. It's in progress :). Hope all of you pleonasters are well! I've got to come back and catch up soon!
  • juliamiriam
    Thanks Mum!!
    by juliamiriam at 01/17/13 4:09PM
  • aleta
    Happy Birthday to your precious Julia! Daughters are priceless!
    by aleta at 01/18/13 6:50AM
  • sirtarin
    =D
    by sirtarin at 01/18/13 11:30AM
  • cyber_space_cadet
    She is such a joy. :)
    by cyber_space_cadet at 01/18/13 11:41AM
  • beavermom
    Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday to you! You're crazy 'bout Merlin, and Jennie is too! lol
    by beavermom at 01/19/13 3:58AM
  • lori_in_pa
    Hi, friend. Waves
    by lori_in_pa at 01/19/13 9:10AM

Seeking Rejuvenation, Energy, Serenity and Tranquility

I forgot to share my last blog on here: Seeking Rejuvenation, Energy, Serenity and Tranquility.

I know there are a LOT of moms out there in need of REST! Take an opportunity to read this and make time to energize yourself!

We had a house-full-of-friends last night -- fifty for our holiday party! It was such a wonderful time and I feel so blessed that so many took time out of busy schedules to enjoy an evening of visting, games, and -- of course -- eating holiday treats and snacks! We also had two families stay the night: The Beckley's (a surprise we kept from the kids!) and the Scribners from Athens! Today was full of more meals together and lots of visting and then a night or relaxing while my washer washed all the company linens and laundry! So thankful that I don't have to go do that down by the river, right? :)

Have a wonderful week!
  • comade
    even if you had to do it by the river you seem to be the type to smile about it and be thankful that you had a place for people to stay!
    by comade at 12/09/12 10:54AM
  • tryphena
    I'm thankful for our "household servants." (Washer, dryer, etc.) Except for my coffeemaker, who is being an obstinate servant who needs (and gets) beaten to work.

    I haven't yet read your other article, but the title promises to be exactly what I need.
    by tryphena at 12/09/12 12:20PM
  • praguer
    I am very thankful for all our "modern" conveniences! :) Unfortunately, as I type, I'm trying to figure out what to do with the washer that refuses to drain. :(
    by praguer at 12/09/12 12:46PM
  • ceoltoir
    ^Bail. ;-)
    by ceoltoir at 12/09/12 9:56PM
  • sirtarin
    Sounds like great fun! =)
    by sirtarin at 12/09/12 10:41PM
  • cyber_space_cadet
    Thank you, Sally, it really was. :)

    I need to head over to your blog soon. I think I've read this one but just want to make sure.

    Your holiday party sounds like it went off without a hitch. The Beckleys were just at Avon the other week...it was so nice to see them.
    by cyber_space_cadet at 12/10/12 3:34PM
  • canardmom23
    My husband often says, "Don't you ever rest?" to which my prompt reply is, "I did that yesterday, that's why I my house looks like this now."
    by canardmom23 at 12/11/12 2:40PM
  • firebolt
    Happy Holidays!!

    I'm glad the card arrived! :)
    by firebolt at 12/18/12 11:25PM
  • juliamiriam
    Happy 21st Anniversary!
    Love you!!
    by juliamiriam at 12/21/12 11:34AM
  • lovescats
    Happy 21st and many, many more!! So, so glad I could spend some time with you all this week!
    by lovescats at 12/21/12 1:52PM
  • juliamiriam
    27 days!! ;P
    by juliamiriam at 12/21/12 2:39PM
  • sirtarin
    Happy Anniversary! (A day late. :P)
    by sirtarin at 12/22/12 6:37PM
  • sirtorin
    Happy Anniversary!
    by sirtorin at 12/22/12 11:18PM

Hello Pleo Friends!

Keeping the home: five of five

This is the final installment in my homemaking series. I enjoyed re-visiting it and editing it to make it 'blog worthy'... I added pictures this time, learning as I went along. I am slowly improving my techie-skills!

My study at camp was well received. I learned so much by digging deep and I'm so thankful for all that God says to us about putting off ungodly speech and putting on godly speech. It always amazes me how we make things so much more difficult than they ought to be. I think often we try to put off without putting on...it just doesn't work that way. We must replace our bad habits with good ones if we wish to keep our good habits. That simple truth works as well in homemaking as it does bridling our tongues!

Camp was wonderful as always...so many friends to visit with, so many beautiful days (in spite of lots of rain), hikes with my husband, lattes with Josh, breakfast in bed every day (This is a treat because I do desserts at the other meals so we keep this one all to ourselves...and because we always let Josh sleep in after staying up past 2 every night!), watching the children play, watching everyone visit, singing, studying...one of my favorite classes ever -- Bethany Bingham's class -- she made some points that I will just cherish forever. While describing her children (of various ages and stages), she concluded each description with 'and it's THE best thing' ... toddlers to teens ... and then concluded that only an AMAZING God could make all ages and stages THE BEST THING. Beautiful...and so in tune with my carpe diem philosophy. Just wonderful.

It was a whirlwind week after camp...monthly shopping is always busy! We had another great girls' study this weekend...all those girls are just so dear to me! It's really a blessing to consider the relationships in God's word and to learn from their mistakes and try to emulate the positive things! I'm working on a study of the Prophets for my little ones' class. They are enjoying it! I rarely dumb down anything, so I'm learning a great deal, too! I love to hear them narrate what we've learned. So precious!

Did I mention that J II held down the fort while we were gone? I think I purposely failed to mention it so he wasn't a sitting duck (yes, all 6'2" and 200 lbs of him and all four dogs and I was still a bit worried about leaving him at home!). He did a great job. All the pets survived and the house was in good condition. Yay!

He's enjoying Jefferson State Community College. He just really likes his English professor a LOT. I'm so glad about that! I've been reading all his required-reading short stories so we can discuss them. Sadly, his class is reading mainly modern American Literature (my LEAST favorite). There have been a few good ones, though. Anyway, it's been fun to chat about them (I like Literature much more than he does ;))! He gets extra credit for going to a play so we are going to King Lear at Samford University in November! FUN!!!!!

And, it's FALL. I really really love FALL!!!


  • tryphena
    It's all GOOD! I love the positive energy that flows from your "pen."
    by tryphena at 10/10/12 6:00AM
  • aleta
    I do, too...love your positive energy. Though my own children are grown and on their own, you inspire me with energy for the young ones still around us.
    by aleta at 10/10/12 8:26AM
  • firebolt
    "All the pets survived and the house was in good condition." That made me giggle. I'm glad he handled it well!

    I can't wait to come to HSCamp, everyone keeps talking about it and I'm so jealous! Hopefully in 2013 we will be there! :D

    I miss you and your family so much! :)
    by firebolt at 10/10/12 11:36AM
  • bandmom
    *sigh* So glad you're able to go to camp every year. That is my one regret about hsing, that we never made it. It's a strange and wonderful phenomenon when your son, whom you remember so clearly as a babe in arms, a toddler, etc., becomes a grown man, isn't it? :)
    by bandmom at 10/10/12 12:28PM
  • marmee
    Makes me miss homeschool camp ... and your classes! :)
    by marmee at 10/10/12 8:36PM
  • crazy_mama
    So bummed that we missed camp. We had a great time on the trips that we ended up going on and one of these days when I have more time I'll share with you what we did end up doing. We had a great time together as a family and that's what matters most! Glad to hear that camp went well. Maybe next year!
    by crazy_mama at 10/11/12 4:18AM
  • schmidtkins
    Sounds wonderful! So glad for all your happy news. "Till I can have your goodness, I could never be as happy as you." Eliza Bennett

    Love you
    by schmidtkins at 10/11/12 9:30AM
  • sirtarin
    Nice post. I'm glad you have a wonderfully time at camp. =)
    by sirtarin at 10/11/12 11:10AM
  • lori_in_pa
    Bethany's class was terrific, as was Teresa's. Teresa's main theme addressed a problem I see again and again but had never articulated as well as she did.
    by lori_in_pa at 10/12/12 3:30PM
  • aleta
    Thank you for your continual prayers for Gene. I shouldn't post when we are first hit with unfavorable news. We know things will be okay. Gene has reached a point where he's afraid to be optimistic, but we're doing okay.
    by aleta at 10/12/12 4:55PM
  • ceoltoir
    Thank you for your kindness and your prayers. I need them.
    by ceoltoir at 10/14/12 8:28PM
  • zsha_zsha
    Thanks! :)
    by zsha_zsha at 10/16/12 8:59AM
  • praguer
    :) Glad things are going well. The Prophets study sounds interesting.
    by praguer at 10/18/12 8:44AM
  • granny
    A lovely update. The tongue, the prophets, the kids, all lovely challenges. Go, girl!
    by granny at 10/20/12 11:15PM
  • _fire_of_fantasy_
    Yes, indeed.
    by _fire_of_fantasy_ at 10/30/12 4:09PM
  • robynbobm
    I love fall too!
    by robynbobm at 10/31/12 10:48PM
  • aleta
    Thank you for your prayers!
    by aleta at 11/01/12 12:59PM
  • juliamiriam
    Thankies Mum!
    by juliamiriam at 11/07/12 4:22PM
  • heatheronthehill
    Thanks so much for your encouragement and for making me feel so loved! Your words were truly a comfort to me today. :)
    by heatheronthehill at 11/14/12 5:17PM
  • ashlidale
    I actually have it ready to send I just need to find time to go over there and send it. It should be yours again soon. Thank you.
    by ashlidale at 11/16/12 7:43AM

The Law of Kindness is on Her Tongue

First, thank you all for the many prayers and kind words during the loss of my brother-in-law and during my dad's surgery and treatment. My father is doing wonderfully! God is good and I am so blessed to have seen him and spent time with him (and the others, of course).

I wrote about Ed's funeral on FB and shared pictures...it was a blessing to see the family come together, yet heartbreaking to see my great nephews that will never remember their grandfather. It was a full military funeral and it was overwhelming in so many ways. The slideshow, the flags, the 21 gun salute, taps...many tears were shed. My great nephew sat with us so my niece-in-law could nurse the baby easily in the front pew and my nephew could speak about his father (all three of my nephews spoke and it was beautiful and heartbreaking). When the coffin lid was closed and covered with the American Flag, Lyn Edward (seeminly unaware, playing a game on my iPhone -- without sound -- because he never has need to sit still and is not trained to that and a funeral is not the time to do it so no judging please -- looked up at me and said, "Where is my grandpa?" Children don't miss a thing. A few minutes later, when his uncle (the youngest of the three boys who is 26) spoke through many tears, Lyn Edward asked me, "Why does his voice sound like that?" Oh, the tears. But, the healing words of the boys -- my nephews...those babies who were the first ones I babysat, the ones I visited as a young girl, the ones who are all grown up and starting familes of their own...the hope for the future, the late-learned-love of the value of life, the acceptance of my brother-in-law's desire to live in spite of his ALS deteriorating everything but his brilliant mind, the beauty of a broken family beginning to heal, trying to love...always hoping...and my prayer is that God will be sought and FOUND.

I know it's been a long time. My updates here are infrequent and I am overwhelmed with so many missed comments and new blogs from you all. Slowly, slowly I am catching up. I recall a time when I eagerly visited this place...and shared many things...I do that on my blog now and on Facebook. The moment FB allowed more than 420 characters, it became faster and easier for me to share there...uploading pictures is a snap, scrolling through to keep up with friends is faster, and all of the private options (groups, messaging) just seem easier. I won't leave here, mind you, but for some reason many of the less-than-pleasant encounters I had here have given it a bit of the cringe-factor for me. Sharing makes you vulnerable to criticism -- some deserved, some undeserved and based on false assumptions -- and sometimes you have to shake the dust off your feet. For those of you not on FB, I still plan to check in here now and then!

I have been studying the scriptures on words, the tongue, and kindness. I also came across some valuable quotes in some old books that I found on our recent FL trip. Because I am the one who loves books the most (of the five siblings in my family), I am often asked to go through the books and take what I want. I've done this dozens of times...how are there any left? Perhaps, too, my mom is letting go of some favorites and I'm able to take some real treasures now! This time, in the midst of a few giant bags of hundred-year old and new books, I also found some books that I read often as a child: Words of Inspiration, The Art of Living and Apples of Gold. I don't know what drew me to them as a child (perhaps the fact that two are bound in gold quite nicely? :)), but re-reading them made me realize how the words in them have shaped me. Many ideals that I held -- even before my conversion -- are nesteled nicely on these pages. The power of words...incredible! Yet, still, it is only God's word that is fully TRUTH, that shows us the way to Him, through His Son. That's priceless.

The blog title is the topic of the study I am preparing for the young girls at hscamp. I teach every year (various ages wherever there is a need) and I love to teach. I especially love to challenge myself to prepare a worthy study of topics from God's word that will not only benefit the girls, but that will cause me to grow spiritually. Teaching others from God's word is a blessing indeed. Meditation on God's precious word, abiding in Him, seeking to do His will...that is what it is all about.

I have always loved words, perhaps that is why I love to write (and read). As many times as I've been inspired and encouraged and even admonished by words, I've also been wounded by words spoken carelessly (haven't we all?). Isn't it strange how a thousand beautiful words from wonderful people can be seemingly erased by a few hurtful words from a near-stranger? In the midst of being hurt by words, it occured to me that I did not have it in my power to change others' words, but I had it in my power (with God on my side) to control my own words, to use my words wisely, to remember to have the law of kindness on my tongue. I had resolved to do that years ago, but this last year determined that seasoning my words, controlling my tongue, and encouraging others to speak with love and kindness would be a top priority.


I found a quote about the power of words in one of the old books I found:
All the beauty, all the joy, all the love that man has known, all his kindness, all his yearnings, all his dreams for better things; his passionate desire for peace and an anchorage within a universe that has filled him with fear and mystery and adoration; his daily round of toil and commonplaces; his assumption of things as they are; his lofty and sublime contemplations, his gorgeous imageries; his valor, his dogged will, his patience in long suffering, his ecstasies, his sacrifices small and great—even to the casting aside of his life for a thought, a compassion, an ambition—all these are bound up in words; hence, words are dangerous when let loose. They may mean man’s destruction. They may signify a way out of the dark. For light is a word, Courage is a word and Vision is another. Therefore it is wise to use words with caution. Their content is so complex and explosive and in combinations, they may work beautiful or dreadful things. ~ Louis Sullivan
  • cyber_space_cadet
    (( ♥ ))
    by cyber_space_cadet at 09/19/12 1:33PM
  • curlie
    Thank you for this. HUGS and much love.
    by curlie at 09/19/12 1:41PM
  • tryphena
    ALS has to be one of the hardest ways to go. My thoughts and prayers with you and your family!

    I'm sorry Pleo hasn't been as kind to you as it should have been...I understand that.
    by tryphena at 09/19/12 1:57PM
  • juliamiriam
    :)
    by juliamiriam at 09/19/12 2:25PM
  • aleta
    So good to hear from you. I really appreciate your thoughts on the tongue.
    by aleta at 09/19/12 2:45PM
  • cyber_space_cadet
    As are we! Love you.
    by cyber_space_cadet at 09/19/12 3:25PM
  • marmee
    Oh, yes, the power of the tongue. I'm constantly taming mine. ;)

    Thanks for staying around here ... I do not and will not do FB. It's just too much social networking for me. This black screen is my 'comfort zone' in cyberspace. So do let us hear from you once in awhile here.

    Thank you for the good that you continue to do ... esp. with the homeschool camper gals! I have fond memories of 700 or so cookies one year ... blessings, dear sister.
    by marmee at 09/19/12 10:27PM
  • beavermom
    Wonderful quote! I have experienced some snarkiness on here as well, but I will stay, as I feel it is a better place to post spiritual matters, as you have above. FB is where I keep up with my old school chums. Praying for you and your family as always!
    by beavermom at 09/20/12 3:43AM
  • lori_in_pa
    Thank you for the update (s) -- I'm behind here, too. Looking forward to seeing your dear face in a few days, as the Lord wills.
    by lori_in_pa at 09/20/12 4:10AM
  • lovescats
    You are so right about words. It is amazing at the power they have. And I agree with you about our reactions to them. And sometimes it's hard to know what words to use. I think sometimes if we waited to say something, we would say it differently or what we thought we just needed to say, didn't need to be said at all.

    ALS - such a horrible, horrible disease. I'm so glad you were able to be there with your family at that difficult time.
    by lovescats at 09/20/12 8:47AM
  • sirtarin
    Well, technically, it's only one niece (For the time being.), and two first cousins-once-removed. :P

    Thank you for the thoughts on the power of the tongue. And for continuing to use Pleo occasionally. =)
    by sirtarin at 09/20/12 9:38AM
  • quiltedmama
    Can't wait to see you too!!
    by quiltedmama at 09/20/12 11:11PM
  • magnolia
    Wish I could be there to hear that lesson. I'm sure it will be excellent -- I remember being in your class the first year we attended HS camp (2008) and it was (still is!) one of THE best lessons on modesty I have ever heard for girls.

    I do understand your feelings, and I just want you to know you have been a great encouragement to me on here ... I know I speak for others as well! I'm glad you will continue to use Pleo on occasion. So very glad to hear your Dad is doing so well.
    by magnolia at 09/20/12 11:57PM
  • bandmom
    XOXOXOXO and so glad you're Dad's doing well! :)
    by bandmom at 09/24/12 5:07PM
  • canardmom23
    Aw, I loved this post. I have been reflecting lately on how to keep the tongue in check when emotions run high and trying to develop some sort of method to stay sweet even in the heat of the moment. Completely open to tips if you have any.
    by canardmom23 at 09/30/12 10:21PM
  • schmidtkins
    Thank you for your kind words. I am glad that your dad is doing a little better. So sorry about your brother in law. I will pray for the family. Love you and yours....
    by schmidtkins at 10/04/12 10:37PM
  • aleta
    Thank you so much!
    by aleta at 10/09/12 3:49PM
  • cyber_space_cadet
    Thanks for the well wishes! Rob and I seem to be having one terrific time with our allergies (or residual Camp Crud or whatever), but mostly we're good.

    Isn't that little old lady really neat? I just loved listening to her talk about cars on the video...really cute.

    Love and hugs! Miss you. :)
    by cyber_space_cadet at 10/09/12 10:29PM
  • pearls03
    Happy Thanksgiving =)
    by pearls03 at 11/22/12 2:49PM