New stage in life

Yesterday (12/9/2011) marked the end of my 29+ year career with Deloitte. Now, I open up my own shop, become my own boss. Parker Bond Consulting L.L.C. is now open for business, providing the same very narrowly specialized tax services that I've been providing for nearly 25 years. Here's to hoping it works out well. Exciting, scary, anything but dull at this point.

Prayers are solicited.
  • matilda_jane34
    Congratulations and good success. Our prayers are with you and full confidence that it will be a great new experience.
    by matilda_jane34 at 12/12/11 9:15AM
  • sparker
    yay! I'm excited for your new company :)
    by sparker at 12/12/11 9:31PM

Wyatt Andrew Naylor, 11/10/10

We are grandparents.

Wyatt weighs 7 pounds, 4 ounces, and is 20.5 inches long.
  • blueeyes
    Congratulations! We can not wait to meet him!
    by blueeyes at 11/11/10 7:22AM
  • babyface
    Congrats, Old Man!!!
    by babyface at 11/11/10 3:55PM

The Road

I just watched the movie based on Cormac McCarthy’s novel, The Road. (Warning if this post makes you consider seeing the film: it is about a very serious, possibly depressing, subject; it is NOT light entertainment, by any definition.)

The protagonists are a father and his young son. Throughout the film, all the characters are living in dire circumstances, just trying to survive when dying would be so much simpler. (Indeed, some characters choose that route.) The main characters are attempting to both survive, and retain their humanity.

Are you familiar with the concept of “triage”? That’s where it is a given that you will not be able to take care of everyone (of all who are in need of medical care, in the literal usage). So you ration the care in some fashion. There’s no need to take offense at the notion. What, exactly, would you propose to do when you have five life-or-death emergencies and only two doctors? Something simply has to give, meaning that someone is left unattended. Someone will almost surely die.

I think it’s fair to describe the situation in The Road as a “triage situation.” As the fortunes of the protagonists wax and wane, there are times when they could be of some help to other people. Should they assist anyone? Everyone? Should the father first ensure their own survival, turning others away? What would you do? (The better question might be, what do you THINK you would do? None of us really knows, until faced with the situation.)

The Road presents a thought-provoking scenario, to be sure. And something occurred to me while watching it. I think this idea was already floating around in my mind, in an ill-defined, rather nebulous fashion, but I had never been able to put it to words. Here it is: I’m not sure that it’s possible to live in a triage situation without having your own humanity damaged to some degree.

How can it not be damaged? If you have no real choice but to let someone die (when, had there been sufficient resources, you would not have had to do so), how can that keep from affecting you in a very serious fashion? Is there any way to keep it from damaging your humanity?

Food for thought.
  • tom_bombadil
    Being a good Samaritan becomes less clear when the road to Jericho is strewn with more half-dead men than a donkey will carry.

    Or, for that matter, when the need for humanitarian aid is more widespread than one's accounts will cover.

    I guess it depends on whether or not your humanity requires you to save everyone. I don't think anyone's humanity depends on that. Even divinity does not depend on that.
    by tom_bombadil at 07/22/10 5:33PM

Didja hear?

We're a-gonna be grandparents! (Sounds cool to us!)
  • matilda_jane34
    Yes, we heard, and only a year or two later for you than when you made us grandparents. Your grandparents were not so blessed at that age - both being 65 or so when our first one came. But what a joy he was.
    by matilda_jane34 at 03/15/10 10:50AM
  • blueeyes
    Thank you for Kalli's birthday wishes!
    by blueeyes at 05/06/10 3:10PM
  • blueeyes
    Thank you!
    by blueeyes at 05/25/10 6:13PM

Pointing out the obvious is now "frankly offensive"

As you may have heard, in 1987 a woman named Pam Tebow was advised by her doctors to abort her unborn child. She declined. As you may also know, that child - Tim Tebow - has gone on to win the Heisman and lead his team to two BCS championships.

Focus on the Family has purchased a 30-second commercial spot on the upcoming Super Bowl broadcast. Reportedly, without mentioning either the word "abortion" or the term "pro-life," this spot tells something about the Tebow story, and has the theme "Celebrate Family. Celebrate Life."

I'm sure you're offended, right? The Super Bowl is a uniter, not a divider; it ain't supposed to be about politics! (So complain several complainants.) And Erin Matson, the Action Vice President of the National Organization for Women, says this: "This ad is frankly offensive. It is hate masquerading as love. It sends a message that abortion is always a mistake." Well, regarding the last sentence, certainly that's true. And I understand that the woman is offended; the "pro-choice" lobby will never, ever accept any restrictions on or even "discouragements" of abortion, if they can help it. But "hate masquerading as love"? Wow. I've seen absurd statements before, but that's got to rank pretty high.

No, you're not going to be offended by the TV spot. Neither will the vast majority of Americans be offended. More than a few may have the obvious truth dawn on them. ("I hadn't really thought about that; what if Tim's mama had aborted him? I wonder if any great athletes were never born because they were aborted?")

And the last thing the abortion lobby wants is for honest people to really THINK about what an abortion actually does. That's why our job is to get them to do just that. Get them to realize this: it's a baby, not a piece of "fetal tissue."
  • lyryk
    To engage in the discussion of when life begins is a tactic in diversion. Any woman who has ever been pregnant knows at her very core that what she is carrying is a baby from the second she knows she's pregnant. That truth is the very reason the pro-choice people are so vehement in their opposition to any woman talking positively about choosing to give birth. No amount of scientific posturing and no amount of laws that legalize it will ever be sufficient to overcome that basic "knowing" that women have. How much therapy does it require when you have an appendix out or gallstones removed? None, but even people who provide abortions push therapy on those who choose it because they know deep-down they are killing babies and normal people can't do that and emerge unscathed. It is why they absolutely must never have the legality of it questioned. It is why they are desperate for 100% agreement with their position. It is why they hate women who are brave enough to choose life no matter what. It isn't because they believe that its just fetal tissue and not a baby. Its because they don't.
    by lyryk at 01/30/10 2:52AM
  • matilda_jane34
    I didn't know this about Tim Tebow, but I'm glad there is a way to get this message out. The problems are really deep as we have so many young people growing up with virtually no moral guidance. The value of life means nothing to large numbers in this society. We can only pray that some will receive the message from this TV spot.
    by matilda_jane34 at 02/01/10 10:25AM
  • blueeyes
    Thank you for the birthday wishes!
    by blueeyes at 03/01/10 10:09PM