moved my daughter into her 1st apartment this weekend. she and 3 other girls. a fun fiasco. i had to remind the 2 dads and one uncle that they were only there for their lifting and putting together abilities, not for telling the girls that their ideas of where furniture went was not the best. i know that no matter where the start out the furniture will not stay there for long. watching them jump from room to room trying to decide where to start was so fun. we were the last parents to leave (always are) and even then it was hard. maybe we should have. that way we could have said NO to the dishwashing liquid in the dishwasher. but 2 hours of cleaning suds will keep them from trying that one again. it is the begining for them to learn all the things we had to when we got our first place, i just keep reminding myself that sometimes you have to learn the hard way.
just over a month and then a complete empty nester. (well, my daughter is only 45 minutes away and will pop in). my son will be on his way to south carolina for 3 months, home for 10 days then off to missouri for 9 weeks. dont know after that. he just let me know that he calls me when he gets to parris island then all other phone calls have to be earned. that will be hard. never knowing if i will talk to him.
i am so proud of both of them.
i give my husband and i 5 days (probably less but definately no more) before the silence in the house drives us crazy.
i had a dream sunday morning that my father , he passed about 15 years ago, came to see me. i was in a hospital talking with some of my daughters friends who had other friends in the hospital (some kind of illness going around campus, nothing serious) when my father came in. i jumped in his arms saying "you have been gone so long" (he traveled a lot when i was young 1 year in thailand). after all the gushy stuff i asked him if he had seen mom yet and his reply is still haunting me. "no, i am going to get her soon". my mother is in good health but 77 years old. i do not recall ever dreaming about my father since his passing nor seeing or hearing him as many people have said they do. my mother in law is ill and back in the nursing home (dont think she will be leaving) but they never knew each other.
does anyone believe this could be an omen about either my mother or my mother in law? i did call my mom sunday nite and she sounded great and looking forward to company the end of the month. i said nothing to her.
i did at least get to see my dad again. i miss him so
I pray you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I pray you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I pray you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I pray you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I pray you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I pray you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I pray you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
They say, it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but an entire life to forget them.
i need some help and come here for it. my mother in law was put into rehab on friday straight from the hospital. she has been in and out of the hospital for some time now and this is the first time she has not argued about not going home. when we went to see her on friday, we felt the end was VERY near. Sunday when we went, she looked much better until we tried to get her out of bed. she has no strength left in her arms or legs and will need 24 hour care. 5 minutes of trying to pull herself out of bed and she was back to tired and looking weak. the only person she has left is her son (my husband). up until about 6 months ago, she was somewhat independent and now she is completely dependant on others. due to many strokes and dehydrating herself, she is entering dementia as well as kidney failure.
this is where the help comes in. why does God allow her to go thru this? her quality of life is gone (even the doctor admitted they are going to try, he did not sound hopeful, to get her back to some kind of quality). i know there is some kind of plan that i may not always be privliged to, but the suffering she is going thru does not seem right. she is a believer and she attended church until her husband died and she could not get to church. i am looking for something that explains the lingering and what appears to be unmerciful when i do not believe that God is unmerciful.
from what i have seen and read i am hoping someone can explain the big question, WHY.
well tuesday it was an earthquake and saturday it was a hurricane. so much fun in one week, who knows what this week will hold. we were very lucky and only had a few limbs on the ground when all was said and done. the wind was bad and at 1 in the morning you could hear it trying to stir something up. after being thru many in mississippi and florida, this one was very nice. by the time it got to us it was a catagory 1, so we got very lucky. and we were on the west side of it so we got winds sweeping the water out not in. my daughter thought she was going to have to delay moving into her dorm, since the school was used as a shelter, but happily she moved in on sunday. my sons first day of his last year in high school was delayed (not to upset).
on a sad note, my mother in law has been in the hospital for a week and not sure when she will be released. she is having kidney problems, caused by dehydrating too many times. we fear she will not be able to go back to her apartment, which for us is a good thing since she is having many problems living alone and too far away from us. for her, of course, it is terrible since she will no longer be on her own and probably be in a nursing home. it is really the best thing for her, since she does not take care of herself (note the numerous times she has become dehydrated). it actually turned out to be a blessing that she was in the hospital, since they called for a mandatory evacutation where she lives and it would have been extremely difficult for us to go get her. the winds were high and we have to cross a bridge. it is also difficult for her to be in our house since there are stairs and she does not do well on stairs.
time to start the new week and hope it is uneventful.