I considered long and hard whether to post about this topic. I’m reading a lot of “get over it” and “it’s time to move on,” and I agree to a point, but I’m also hoping that some of the heat of emotion has settled long enough now for some thoughtful reflection.

I love my friends and family very much. I hope that because we are friends and family, you’ll take a minute to read this with an open mind and know that it’s coming from a place of care, not of anger or bitterness.

I’m concerned with the reactions, dismissiveness, and lack of love shown by people that I normally respect very much. In other situations, I’ve seen these same people react kindly and considerately. In this case, the uncaring reactions seem to have come from a place of defensiveness. Please take a moment and breathe deeply and don’t defend. Please listen.

We are called to care for each other, yes? Weep with those who weep. Consider our brethren more important than we consider ourselves.

May I assert that if someone is hurting or scared because of a politician’s viewpoints that cater to unloving attitudes, that the right response is probably not to first defend your position, but to care about your brother or sister’s hurt? May I assert that the right reaction might be to stand with them against those unloving attitudes, and explain your choice without denying the causes of their fear? Calling expressions of fear and disappointment about this election “negative” and “disrespectful” and “illogical” misses an opportunity to understand each other and build each other up. Are you against racial discrimination, and sexual assault, and unkindness? I bet so. How are you showing it? Or are you too busy defending your reasons for your vote?

I’m not asking anyone to change their political position. I’m asking you to show your stand against actions and attitudes that are wrong, rather than denying their existence. I’m not asking you to have the exact same concerns that I or someone else has. I’m asking you to care enough about that person that you try to listen and understand, and do everything you can to make that person you love feel safe and cared about. Why wouldn't you? Love casts out fear.

Going private

I've kept my weblog public for a really long time because I don't like the idea of the world having to be so paranoid about their "privacy" and such. But sadly... sometimes I think it's better to protect your privacy and the privacy of those around you. Unfortunately the world is just not ideal.

I'll leave a few of my entries public from time to time, but most will be private from now on, so if you'd like to be on my friends list and you're not already please let me know.

Also, for those of you who use first and last names for your friend list, please don't. It completely destroys internet privacy when your name shows up on google.

Oh, and since I don't know how often I'll make it back to this public post, it might be easier (if you're gold) to send me a message instead of leaving a comment.

Thanks! :)
  • fullofgrace
    i don't believe in last names
    by fullofgrace at 06/11/09 6:02PM
  • wifelet
    Am I on your friendly list? Can I be?
    by wifelet at 06/11/09 9:39PM
  • charirosey
    Thanks for bringing up the name thing. since I'm not gold anymore that's another reason why I'm not on here to post anymore.
    by charirosey at 06/11/09 11:42PM
  • beckyroo
    Can I be on your list? :-)
    by beckyroo at 06/11/09 11:58PM
  • sarahmarcelle
    I love privacy.
    by sarahmarcelle at 06/12/09 9:43AM
  • beep_girl
    Hi can I be on your blog? :)
    by beep_girl at 06/12/09 12:03PM
  • rachel
    add me please
    by rachel at 06/12/09 7:08PM
  • cowboyrob
    add me
    by cowboyrob at 06/12/09 9:16PM
  • adeline
    OH! ;D ha! thanks!
    by adeline at 06/12/09 9:30PM
  • meditationis
    What she said.
    by meditationis at 06/12/09 10:20PM
  • mrs_worm
    thanks for mentioning the whole first/last name thing! that bugs me!!

    is last initial okay??
    by mrs_worm at 06/13/09 9:29AM
  • jody
    Done! I'm glad you mentioned it. I hadn't thought of it before, but I went ahead and deleted everything off that username, so thanks! ;)
    by jody at 06/13/09 11:45AM
  • firebolt
    I don't know why Bella is scared.......she's just.....weird. She will sniff at him and then back up and go hide. And if he cries she is out of the room immediately.
    by firebolt at 06/13/09 1:36PM
  • danielstephen
    the people with my name on google are waaaaay cooler than me and show up way before i do lol
    by danielstephen at 06/13/09 10:31PM
  • sarahphim
    Please keep me on...I enjoy keeping up with you. :)
    by sarahphim at 06/14/09 4:29PM
  • rockinrobin
    i would miss being on the list. Please include me!
    by rockinrobin at 06/14/09 9:44PM
  • 23_bravo_7
    I would get my celiac information elsewhere.
    by 23_bravo_7 at 06/15/09 11:07AM
  • megan
    Can I be added please? I enjoy your updates/perspectives/ideas!
    by megan at 06/15/09 12:10PM
  • karate7
    Can I be added? Please.
    by karate7 at 06/16/09 9:34PM
  • nate
    Dunno how I missed this -- okay, I do, I'm a pleo delinquent -- but I'd like to keep up, too.
    by nate at 07/14/09 1:14PM