Like when you lived in "A" Dorm?

yes, but I am glad you are older and have all that figured out unlike some of us youngins. ;) Thank you for your classes on Sundays! ;)

I'm glad you have all that self control. It's part of what makes you the strong person you are!

I haven't really thought about it that way before.

I just thought it was so silly (or sad) - I'm really not that tired!

hi im going to mak ooooo a find o peanast

he is so silly. he totally meant to spell all of that wrong. he thought it was so funny!

http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Roast-Chicken-with-Rosemary/Detail.aspx
Hi, I just wanted to share that recipe I was telling you about the other day. I did follow most of the suggestions from the reviewers for tweaking it with the lemon, olive oil, garlic, potatoes and carrots. I'm thinking of making it tonight. :) It didn't take nearly as long to cook in my oven either. I hope ya'll are having a good one. Enjoy your new precious addition, Patience. :)

visit me!

you look pretty in that pictere.

why dont you have me on youre list?

can you belive it!

amelie is actaly here!

why do you look like you're about 14 in that picture?

Thanks for the update and I am glad that things went well for him. Dr. Forsty Moore impresses me more every time I go see him.

I hope you both are getting some sleeping right now. My left nostril is well hurting now that the stitch is out but with all considered today was the first day I sleep most of the day. I needed it so. I don't know if John told you but I am also dealing with cyst on both ovaries right now. One is larger than all but that one is bothering me really bad as I speak. I can tell though this surgery has really helped and I am thankful for that (the sinus' surgery). Well I better go and let the dog out and try and take something for my pain. Tell Barry to hang in there so many people are praying for him and both of you. *hugs*

The recovery doesn't sound fun. I would definitely be grouchy!

I'm glad things went well...though I am clueless what has happened to cause the surgery. Not to be nosy, I'll just say that I'm thankful he's on the mend.

yay! I'm glad things went so well!

I'm glad the surgery went well! That's crazy that he hurt it so much!!! I hope he feels better soon. I'm sure it will be a long recovery.

Ouch! That sounds painful! Glad it's over and hope he heals well.

give him a kiss from piglet. that should help the healing process :)

Glad things are going well so far. That definitely sounds painful! Hope recovery goes smooth and quickly for both of you! :)

hope he's feeling better!

How's Barry doing? And you? :)

Sharing Grief 10-24-07 01:20pm CST

Today Gene met with a man, a member of another congregation in the Houston area, who lost his wife to a battle with cancer about 4 weeks ago. This man and his wife were married only ten years, but both had married later in life. They were so in love, and he misses her terribly.

Gene called me after they had spent some time together and I joined them for lunch at Luby's Cafeteria. I was really looking forward to being with this man and to being able to talk with him about his wife. The 3 of us, all having the trial in common of losing a mate, had a wonderful visit, even though painful and at some points filled with tears.

There was a time in our lives when the 3 of us were "on the other side", only able to helplessly "look in" on those who grieved the loss of a spouse. But now we've been there and there's so much we have learned:

When we lost our mates, somehow at first, we felt like we were accountable to our friends and loved ones and to the public to "be over it" in THEIR time; to fit into a mold of THEIR expectations. This is not good. Grief is "custom made" and if we try to suppress our feelings so as to please those who HAVEN'T grieved, we won't heal. Our friend has been struggling with that, but we discussed the value of grieving in HIS time.

We don't (didn't) mind people saying, "Hi, how are ya?", but it DOESN'T help to persist with, "No, how ARE you?" because we AREN'T fine and we don't want to say we are doing terrible. But we will if pushed. If you're told "I'm fine", but you really don't believe it, then let your doubt in their answer satisfy your curiosity. What you believe...is right. Don't make the griever say it.

So what DO you say to the grieving? Things that help are:

No words at all; just a hug and an "I'm thinking of you".

If making a call to check in, ask "What's on your agenda today?" "Would you like to have lunch? And when spending this sort of time with the griever, talk about normal things; things in your life. Share funny stories/happenings. Help them laugh. Ask them questions about their loved one; things you never knew about them: "How did you meet?" "What did he/she do for a living?" "How long were they sick?"

Say their name often and easily. Don't apologize for that, and don't patronize; don't treat them as a child with a boo boo. Speak in normal tones, the way you did before their loss. Listen closely to how THEY feel and what THEY are saying, because it's only by listening closely that you will pick up on THEIR needs.

The griever has trouble identifying what they need, so don't persist that they use their energy to come up with something for you to do. Just listen. Closely. And be available.

The grieving want to feel normal again, but it will take a while to allow themselves to do that because they feel it will betray their lost one. Admittedly the hard part for those on the "outside looking in" is how to balance normalcy with still showing compassion. Like I said, we've been on that side, too.

I hope some of these thoughts help. We all will always have those around us who grieve. Each grief has it's own personality. Respect that as much as you respect and allow your friends and loved ones to be who they are.

I'm glad you asked, Kay, and I'm glad to share this again.

I cannot believe we missed you! That would have been so much fun to see you!

the word traumatized doesnt even begin to explain what i have been through.

It was good to hear from you. I'm sorry about Barry's accident; from what I hear, the recovery from that injury and surgery is no picnic. We'll be thinking about him and all of you.

You're welcome!

hi marmolaid or maid

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo love you!

I will be praying for Barry, you and your family.

will pray!

I'll be praying for Barry and for you as well. I know he will get through this and I will pray for the doctors and those who are helping him through this. *hugs*

I'll be praying. Let us know how it goes.

I'm praying. I'm sure in time he will be fine. Keep us posted.

Definitely praying. I hope he has a good recovery! Please keep us updated.

Any idea how long it will take him to recover?

You are definitely not approaching old hagdom! lol

oh silly you! that is just a thought in your mind!

Children ARE the best part of this world! My 5 are growing up fast! They range from 10-16 and I don't know where the years have gone!

My sweet Kay. You are far from being a hag! In fact, you are probably one of the prettiest little ladies I know, and I say it's all because of the sweet children and grandchildren you have. (And a sweet husband, too!) Of course, I realize I could be a wee bit prejudiced, but I'm not the only one who thinks this. I, too, am proud of my children and grands, and especially my greats!! And I agree with you about the sweet parents who are training them up so well in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Love to all, Letha

P. S. I sure am proud you finally got back on the computer!

do you think your son-in-law is sweet after what he did to your grandbaby's sweet picture?

I'm pretty sure "old hag" will never be a term used to describe you, sweet lady!!!

Kay, Kay, Kay. When we saw each other, I hope I told you that you look as young as you did over 30 years ago, because you do! I'm so happy for your blessings of grandchildren!

first take a dot, a lotta dot dot dots.... your ICQ/ICU joke was pretty good! :) marmoskin, here i come!

you are a bit prejudiced with your recent comment on my blog, by the way! i am going to have to agree with everyone else- not sure you will never be a 'hag' sweet MIL!

you're right! Thanks!

No, but we did go to the beach and jump waves! Be watching for an e-mail from me...

You are FAR from hagdom, especially if you remain as sweet as you are! Tons of kids wish they had you guys for parents remember that!!

School is eeehhhh.... I am about to quit my job because working and taking 12 hours is too much for me. These classes require soo much more work than I am used to and its killing me. Anyway, I can't wait until thanksgiving. How are you??

y'all need to quit playing with my heart! who'll it be?? either way, i'll be pleased as punch and then some!

So glad to see you and visit with you at the retreat. Thank you so much for coming!

It's always nice to see you. You are far from hagdom. :) I forgot the name of the recipe website you were telling me about. Do you mind sharing it with me again? Thanks! :)

Congrats! He's so beautiful! I love y'all!

did you slip away with GL at some point to pick up on the horse betting lingo!?!? lol

i can only imagine all of the hugs and kisses that yall shared.

thank you, hope all is well.

i love you

I bet tonight we are going to have a fun time at your house

thank you for your words!

Thanks for the wonderful visit I had with you and your family last weekend. It was just great to be with all of your sweet kiddos (except little Beccas) and Warren and Debi and Billie. So glad I could go with you to Columbus and see Hollie and T.J. and their boys, also. Thanks for helping me out of Austin, too (you and little Barry). Great time! Love, Mom

i've been in a deep depression from not seeing you this weekend!!!

you owe me an ugly performance.. or maybe two.

:) Nice to hear from you.

HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!!

Happy Belated Birthday. Sad that its written on the calendar right in front of my face! I think I have developed ADHD since having Greyson... or he enhanced it! Duh....

hmm was i not in any of the pictures? however did that happen? what a shame. you're right.. the room barely was enough for all the talent that was there already. such a scary thought. love you!

Not so much. When its hot, its hot. It was 104 at midnight last night. Good to hear from you.

who is cussing and where? i'm confused. but i'm sure you can delete it, whatever it is.

I just wanted to let you and Barry know how great it was to have you guys be a part of Tiffany's special day. Thank you. It all went so wonderfully!

Kay!!!! It's Julie (Willams) Petry. I don't know if you remembe me or not. I worshipped with you when I was a student at Sam Houston State. You were a host at one of my wedding showers. You guys used to pick me up for church. At the time Rebekah was just about 4 or 5 years old.

Hey Kay! I miss ya! I leave for UNT August 15th. The first day of move in is the 17th and first day of classes is the 25th! Beau is great though hes a handful. How are things with you???

Heard you were back in Austin! Just can't stay away from those grandbabies? :)