Summer YAY!

I love summer. I usually plan too much but I feel like it is always 3 months of accomplishment! This summer is no different. We always plan a garden with 3 other families and my summer is full of cultivating, harvesting, and canning. I love seeing my pantry full of a years worth of food at the end of the summer! The garden makes trips difficult so it does ground us but this year we are doing two trips. We are not Disney goers but we were invited by some dear friends in Atlanta to go with them to Disney for a week in June. Sarah and Will have been but Molly didn't even know what Disney World was until we told her! She will enjoy it. Then a week in July we are all going our separate ways! Jeb to Mexico, Will to AL Senior Camp, Sarah to AL Junior Camp, me to a sign language conference in Atlanta, and Molly to her Nan and Granddaddy's house! We figured knocking out our activities during the same week will help.

I always try to home school somehow during the summer since the kids are now in public school. This year I am doing a Spanish curriculum with Molly (yes she has forgotten it all!) as well as a summer reinforcement program that I will do with Will and Sarah. I also have a bible program that I am doing with the girls. We are studying "Growing Little Women" by Donna J. Miller. There is a book for young girls that I will study with Molly and another I will study with Sarah. I look forward to sitting down with them and opening the book. Sarah is starting to "close up" and I feel a little teenage distance starting so hopefully this will help her begin to talk again. I have also implemented the IF/THEN chart for the summer. If you do this, then this is your punishment. As well as the blessings chart and the Reaves house rules chart. (Can you tell I love charts?) With these charts I am not constantly screaming (yes, unfortunately I do scream sometimes:( ] orders or punishment but I can just say, "Go read #...)
I also have printed all the chores and put them in a bowl. Each night they draw out their 3 new chores for the following day. This way their chores don't get monotonous.

Something I am very excited about is that we bought a camper. I have been searching for about a year. I wanted to find the perfect one for us, with the perfect setup and the perfect price! That's why it took me a year! Finally we have our camper. It's a bunkhouse with queen bed in the front, middle kitchen, and bunks in the back. It does have a slide out so there is plenty of room. We found it on Craigslist and it is a 2003. The reason we got such a good deal is that it was dirty. It is perfect, nothing wrong with it, just dirty. Well Jeb and I have fixed that problem and it is as good as new! We look forward to taking off anytime we feel like it and spending a night with the family. No tvs, phones, or computers! Can't wait.

Well that's our summer, it will be gone before we know it. Hope you enjoy yours!
  • annabrett
    Hey Sheila! Sounds like you have a great summer planned! We bought a camper last summer and LOVE it! Ours sounds like the same layout, but without a slider. WE're hoping there will be lots of trips out west in it :) This summer we're sticking close to home though, since we're trying to get ready for baby #3. Jeanie and I are wanting to do a garden, but decided to wait until next year. We're going to try and learn to can/preserve this summer and do a garden next year. I like the IF/THEN chart. I may need to try that with olivia. I like charts, too! Glad to hear you are doing well. I don't really post on pleo anymore, but like to keep up with everyone else!
    by annabrett at 05/27/11 1:20PM
  • ncreaves
    The "Growing Little Women" books sound interesting. Maybe I can take a look at them sometime. I always like to know books to recommend. The camper will create some great family time and memories. Glad you found what you wanted. Now those kids are so wonderful that I can't imagine why you would need an IF/THEN chart! :) Am enjoying London--it is easy to get back in the swing of the tubes and markets and eating places we enjoy. I want to take you to eat at Food for Thought. Brownie loves it too. Love you, dear one.
    by ncreaves at 05/27/11 1:47PM
  • melbuc
    I saw the camper in the driveway. Looks pretty exciting!
    by melbuc at 05/28/11 12:35AM
  • homeschoolmomma23
    Just went camping for a couple of days. We tent camp. I would love to have a camper, then we could go more often (I need air in the summer time!!!) We went to Mountain View, AR. Would be a bit of a drive for you guys, but the Ozark Folk Center is there and it has so many very cool things to do there.
    by homeschoolmomma23 at 05/28/11 7:15PM
  • misssonja
    I hope you will do a good post or two on canning since I'm trying to learn this year also...because I need something to do with the 9000 tomatoes I hope to get!
    by misssonja at 05/29/11 9:35PM
  • rmpmullinax
    Loving the Fab5!
    by rmpmullinax at 06/01/11 5:05PM
  • meg
    Oh, enjoy your summer--it sounds like wonderful things are waiting for you!
    by meg at 06/08/11 12:08AM
  • granny
    Sheila, I really appreciate you adding a comment about Nancy on my page. We are all praying. Clocks cannot turn backwards, so we can only face the immediate future. One day at a time (and often, one hour at a time), not burdening ourselves with tomorrow's pain in anticipation. A challenge indeed. I'm glad you are there for her.
    by granny at 05/11/12 2:23PM

Darkness

April has been a tough month for me as well as many around us. May continues to be as well.
Many of you know about the tornadoes that devastated AL one week ago. The atmosphere reminds me of Katrina in many ways when we lived in Mobile. There was panic that set in for a while, long lines at gas stations, no food on the shelves at grocery stores, electricity and water shortages (400,000 were without power), and phone lines overloaded. Many of those things have passed, but the atmosphere is still very sad. There are images everywhere of devastation. As with 9/11 and Katrina people's moral can really get down because it seems to be all around us. Jeb, Will, and I worked with the cleanup for 3 days last week. There were 5 families directly affected by the tornadoes. They all lost their homes and one almost lost his life. It was sobering to see the destruction. There are 250 confirmed dead in AL alone and 300 people still unaccounted for. Please continue to pray for those affected.

I personally have been going through something that is very difficult as well. My mother died 8 years ago of complications from diabetes. Since then my dad's mental health has been progressively gotten worse. He is a Vietnam Vet. The things he did and saw there can not be described and it has haunted him at night for 45 years. Although he never spoke specifically about his memories, my mother helped him with the nightmares all of those years. When she died they started to overtake him. He was diagnosed with PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). The past year has been terrible and then past month horrible. He is not supposed to drive or have guns but puts many miles on his truck per day and has an arsenal. My brother and I get calls everyday from people in the small community where I'm from. People call to report things my dad has done. Everyone is scared of him. Recently he hit may brother and has since threatened him. He is not always angry, sometimes depressed, sometimes confused. Last week he bought a whole restaurant their breakfast and left a hundred dollar tip. He has also made some other deals where people have taken great advantage of his money. He is not making good decisions right now. As of yesterday the psychologist agreed to admit him for a 30 day evaluation, but can't do anything unless he comes to an appointment. Dad's paranoia makes him question everything and we can't get him to go. He has always been a man that you don't cross, that you don't tell he's wrong, and short tempered. Coupling that with his mental illness makes for a difficult situation. I woke up today knowing that he may have to be taken by force to the hospital. That is so hard.
My dad is the main reason we moved back from Mexico because I knew that I needed to be within driving distance to help my brother the best I can. I covet your prayers that we will deal with the situation in the best way.
  • marmee
    This makes me so sad. For your family and your Dad. Mental health issues as we age are so devastating to family. I will pray that good decisions can be made regarding what is best for your Dad before anything dangerous happens. May God guide you and those who will have a part in making the decisions. Phil 4:13 comes to mind, as well as "Be still and know that I am God." Love and prayers for you from me.
    by marmee at 05/04/11 9:45AM
  • julied93
    My heart goes out to you! I'm sorry for what you're having to deal with physically & emotionally, but I know that God knows better than anyone how you 're suffering & how to comfort & strengthen you & your family. I will be praying for you!
    by julied93 at 05/04/11 9:47AM
  • homeschoolmomma23
    I got an email yesterday from his aunt, so we are working on getting the shirts to them. Thank you for remembering to mention him to me. We are never happy to hear of a cancer diagnosis, but we are blessed to encourage those we do hear about!
    by homeschoolmomma23 at 05/04/11 10:58AM
  • raifhaus
    Sending love. I'm sorry, Sheila. Hang in there as best you can.
    by raifhaus at 05/04/11 11:01AM
  • nana_h
    So sorry Sheila, Your dad calls often and wants to talk to Tim about things, and Tim listens and tries to suggest things to him. If you ever need to talk, please don't hesitate to call. I think your dad also calls Sue & Arwood pretty often, so they might be of some comfort to you. Hang in there!!!
    by nana_h at 05/05/11 10:24AM
  • granny
    Dear Sheila, I wish I had come by earlier. Your description of your dad and your love for him...my heart breaks. I pray even as you love and care for him, please use great wisdom. Protect him and those around him, but don't be careless of your own safety. I write this in love.
    As I sit here in Africa, I am so very thankful for the many Christians helping each other, and their neighbours, there in Alabama.
    by granny at 05/07/11 12:48AM
  • ncreaves
    Sheila, this is Granddad. I hadn't heard anything about your Dad for quite a while and hence, was glad to get your update, even tho it is dismal. I know this is a very difficult time for you,
    but I believe you will have to disregard your Dad's feelings and do whatever you believe is best
    for him. It makes me realize my duties to Jeanie are minimal compared to what you are haveing to deal with. I'll be praying for you. Granddad.
    by ncreaves at 05/07/11 1:34PM
  • loveofjebs
    Thank you to you all. Unfortunately we are still dealing with the situation and it seems unending. There seems to be no good solution. I continue to covet your prayers.
    by loveofjebs at 05/09/11 7:01PM
  • melbuc
    Thinking about you...are you home now?
    by melbuc at 05/17/11 8:38PM
  • daddysgirl
    I will definitely pray for you and everyone else affected, including your dad.
    by daddysgirl at 05/18/11 1:06AM
  • chickadee
    You will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers. I have been been feeling sorry for myself lately, but after reading this, my situation doesn't seem so bad. Please be careful! And remember not to neglect your own needs.

    And listen to the wiser people who got here before me. There is more, but not being private.... well, my yahoo is livinnhope, if you'd like to talk more. By the way, if you are going to covet something, prayer is a good thing!
    by chickadee at 05/19/11 3:48AM
  • meg
    I will remember you to the Father. He will provide strength and wisdom.
    by meg at 05/24/11 1:15AM

Getting away.

So this week is my Spring Break from school. My sweet m-i-l came over and is keeping the kids while Jeb and I are getting some much needed time away from the routine. We are in Franklin TN enjoying the sites. The weather has been dreary but we've enjoyed antique shops, coffee, tea, and even some fish and chips at a local quaint restaurant. We visited a beautiful bookstore with tons of old books and visited some civil war sites. One of our favorite places has been Lieper's Fork, which is a quaint town with about 5 shops. The town was built around a church building that was the first church of Christ building built south of Nashville. We also visited a shop there owned by Alex who appeared on Jeb's favorite show American Pickers! She gave us the whole story about the show and the guys, Mike and Frank. So now we are headed home, back to the grind! It's been a great time.
  • misssonja
    Yeah for some fun!
    by misssonja at 03/10/11 5:53PM
  • kris
    Enjoy your time together! I know the kids are loving their grandmother being there!
    by kris at 03/10/11 8:28PM
  • kristindoula
    Wonderful! We have some great friends who just moved to Franklin last summer (he's preaching there, where Edwin and Marita were). Glad you had a great time!
    by kristindoula at 03/11/11 10:01AM
  • kristindoula
    Yes, Mitch and Julie. :-) We love them! And miss them! Julie's last birth was the homebirth I went to when I was 37 weeks pregnant with Levi. ;-) Our babies are 3 weeks, 1 day apart.
    by kristindoula at 03/14/11 10:05AM
  • julied93
    LOVE American Pickers!
    by julied93 at 03/23/11 1:55PM
  • bharris007
    What is the name of Alexs shop?
    by bharris007 at 04/03/11 9:35AM
  • loveofjebs
    Bryan, I don't know the name of the shop but its right across from Puckett's grocery. Its the best shop there.
    by loveofjebs at 04/10/11 4:17PM

Goings on

So now I'm a year into my studies. I am shooting for my Bachelors in Sign Language Interpreting. I should be done by next spring and then be able to take on my internship. The program has been pretty tough! It's like nursing school in a lot of ways, there are a lot of people that drop out in the first semester. I am enjoying learning a 3rd language but it's hard to make my mind do all that is necessary to translate from one language to another. Sign language's sentence structure is constructed a lot like Spanish. I often find myself reading in English, then translating it into Spanish before I take it to my hand and form the signs. Could I make it any harder on myself? I am blessed to be able to get the degree totally online. There are a lot of event requirements and hours of observation put in that I have to set up myself but it's so enjoyable. Every time I come home from an event I tell Jeb, "This is exactly what I want to do!". I have been subbing some at the high school here that educates the hard of hearing students. That is a great experience. I also go to deaf meetings and meet people from all walks of life. In February I went to a silent weekend. I attended many workshops on interpreting, memory processing, and facial expression. We couldn't talk the whole weekend and could only use sign language! I learned a lot. Also Troy University chose me to represent them at the National Conference for Interpreters in Atlanta in July. I will be going there to work the school booth and attend the workshops. Fortunately Will and Sarah will be at Alabama camp, Jeb is going to Chiapas, and Molly with stay with her Nan for a week! So it should be fun. Finally at 37 I know what I want to do! I have been searching for something that I could do for years that wouldn't take away from my mommy duties. This is it. I can work a few hours a week, have a rewarding job, and make good money to help us out.

Things are going well for us. The Mexican days of relaxation are out the window though. Having 3 kids at these ages is a challenge. I have a mommy calender up and it helps some....between their schedules, Jeb's schedule, my school, and my part time job (did I mention I work 2 days a week) we are holding our heads above water! My finals are this week and then I have spring break so Nan is coming to take care of the kiddos and Jeb an I are going a way for a much needed break.

Speaking of those kiddos, they are doing great. They have adjusted well and are all in school (3 different schools, so 3 different car lines). Molly is in 1st grade, Sarah in 5th and Will in 7th. Molly is the sweetheart in her class and her best friend has Aspergers syndrome. She is so sweet and patient with her. She also has a very shy, overweight boy with a speech impediment whom she has taken under her wing named Andrew. He was in her class last year. Every holiday he gets her a small stuffed animal and this Valentine's day he had his mom give Molly a chocolate Rose. Molly Ann is truly as sweet and caring as her namesake, my mom. Sarah is our MBFMM (metal brace face metal mouth) as Jeb calls her and is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside. She is our wiz kid and easily has straight A's every time. She is also playing indoor soccer and loves it. She is also a compassionate kid and takes care of everyone. Will is now taller than me, I believe he is 5'9" now and plays football and soccer. He is not our wiz kid but gets by in life by being a friend to all. He is kind an funny and doesn't take life too seriously. This causes his daddy to keep his thumb on him pretty hard but he does take the important things seriously and loves people as the Lord would have him to. He is also playing the electric guitar and loving it.

Jeb just had shoulder surgery January 17th. After a long month of immobility he is finally in therapy and will continue therapy for another 2 months. It's hard for that man to be down but he is healing well. He hopes to go to Mexico again this year as well as Honduras. I pray that things settle down in Mexico so that the kids and I will be able to go and see our dear brothers and sisters there soon.

Blessing to you all. I look forward to using pleo as my journal once again!..
  • mrs_worm
    I LOVED reading the details about your family. It sounds as if each child has their own special talents to use in the Lord's work one day. Your ASL studies are fascinating. I remember having to use my VERY limited ASL with a couple patients while working in xray. I would have loved to know more. They just lit up when I showed them the couple I knew (please, thank you).
    by mrs_worm at 02/28/11 2:10PM
  • misssonja
    Go over and read Laura's posts dated Feb 27-28. You might want to know each other.
    by misssonja at 02/28/11 8:49PM
  • kris
    I LOVED LOVED LOVED this update! Loved so much getting a gilmpse into the kids personalities...and well...Molly of course sounds like a little girl after my own heart- taking right to the exact "people" I would befriend and want to help too! I pray that my sweet Molly has the heart of your Molly, the gentleness and brains of Sarah, and the humor for life that Will has! So I guess that means I pray to take to heart many of the things I learned from you in the years past!
    by kris at 02/28/11 8:57PM
  • ncreaves
    Your description of the kids is perfect and about what I wrote in our holiday news letter. So happy for you to have found your niche and enjoy sign language--know you will do a super job. Altho' I love to write and cook, I wish I had known when I was in college how much I was going to be interested in health and nutrition. I would have majored in nutrition or been a dietitian or something like that. You'll have that degree before you know it and all your work will be worth all the effort. So excited to come next week!
    by ncreaves at 03/01/11 1:17PM
  • kris
    please let us know the dates that you come! We would love to have you a night or 2 here at the house if you have time! If not, we will definitely try to make something work to see you either way.
    :-)
    by kris at 03/01/11 8:01PM
  • txwhittlec
    Wonderful, Sheila! Sooo happy for you all! God has blessed you all in so many ways! Love ya! :)
    by txwhittlec at 03/04/11 12:01AM
  • kristindoula
    Very exciting things! :-)
    by kristindoula at 03/09/11 9:15PM

I'm back!

I just had a revelation today.

This forum is a comfort to me. That is my revelation.

I miss it.

I drew strength from it while in Mexico.

I can draw strength from it now.

Facebook is deceptive.

I don't truly know those people,

Except for what they had for dinner.

Pleonasters don't tell me what they had for dinner,

They give me spiritual food!!!

So I'm back.
  • misssonja
    Welcome back. We like you here.
    by misssonja at 02/21/11 11:44AM
  • mrs_worm
    I use both pleo and facebook, but.. in totally different ways. Facebook is just to keep up with family and share small day-to-day happenings with family and friends.

    Pleo is much more for me. I get so much information, learn so much, have so much support, etc from here. It's been priceless.
    by mrs_worm at 02/21/11 12:38PM
  • kristindoula
    :-)

    *Like* ;-)
    by kristindoula at 02/21/11 12:45PM
  • madtomkidd
    Pleonast FB!

    Hope the states are treating you all well!
    by madtomkidd at 02/21/11 1:40PM
  • lrfs611
    WHOO HOO! I look forward to your updates :)
    by lrfs611 at 02/21/11 2:03PM
  • sparker
    welcome back
    by sparker at 02/21/11 5:24PM
  • tandielq
    I agree whole heartedly!
    by tandielq at 02/21/11 8:09PM
  • txwhittlec
    Yea! Great to hear from you. :)
    by txwhittlec at 02/21/11 10:04PM
  • granny
    Welcome back! Please do tell us about your trip. I'm so glad you got to go.
    by granny at 02/22/11 11:54AM
  • ncreaves
    Totally with you on the comparison between the two. I am uplifted by so many on pleo. Guess the days of revelations have not ceased!! :) Glad you are back.
    by ncreaves at 02/22/11 4:32PM
  • marmee
    Glad to see you back and I amen your revelation. I left FB a long time ago after only "trying" it for a few months. Blessings to you and yours. :)
    by marmee at 02/23/11 9:02AM
  • missysnapp
    Nice assessment. Glad you are back.
    by missysnapp at 02/23/11 11:37PM
  • kris
    I like this. And I agree. Oh: And lately...Molly is working on her meal time signs, and it's SO CUTE! And she is LOVING the DVD :-)
    by kris at 02/25/11 6:55AM
  • kris
    Tonight! Tonight she actually put her hands together on her own ("more") for bites of food and to have her sippy cup! It's too cute! She just concentrated so hard looking at her hands the first several times as she put them together! I just started really teaching her exactly 1 month ago yesterday! :o) I put a video on FB, it's not the best, but all that I caught at the end of dinner.
    by kris at 02/26/11 9:19PM