To the older women of the Lord's church

To the older women of the Lord's church,

We, the younger women, need you. I need you. I know that some of you have grown weary after many years of teaching children's bible classes and raising your own family. I know that some of you have bodies that no longer allow you to do what you would like and it is not always easy even to attend bible class and worship. I know that some younger women have bad attitudes and do not want to hear what you might have to say. I understand that you want to rest after a lifetime of effort, but it is because of that lifetime of effort and experience that we need you now.

Titus 2:3-5 says that "Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."

I have heard from several older women that the younger women "just don't want to hear it", but there are some of us who very much so want to hear what you have to say. Please seek us out as we seek you. I was not raised in the church and do not have a christian mother to teach and guide me as I try to be a wife and mother. I know that there are many other young women out there in the same position who need an older woman to step in and guide them. Perhaps you feel like you are intruding or it "isn't your place", but Titus 2 tells us that it IS your place. It is the responsibility of the younger women to listen and learn from you and they are wrong to neglect that.

Maybe you live in a place where there are no young women for you to teach directly. If that is the case perhaps you could write down the advice and wisdom that you have. Even if you do have younger women to teach, please write it down anyway. So often I have met women who simply do not remember what they did in the early years of their marriage and their children's lives. While we have God's word to guide us we also need your experience in practical application of the word to help us. If you write it down now then you will have it for the years to come.

So please teach us, guide us, and be a part of our lives. Give us advice or criticism even if we don't ask for it. Please don't rest now- we need you too much.
  • shelbysmom
    What a good post! And it's also good to remind all women that, to someone, we are the older women!
    by shelbysmom at 10/17/11 11:31PM
  • katie_fitz_steinback
    Wonderfully written.
    by katie_fitz_steinback at 10/18/11 1:53AM
  • comade
    Love it!
    by comade at 10/18/11 8:03AM
  • sallyanne
    Very good thoughts!
    by sallyanne at 10/18/11 2:22PM
  • kendrad
    by kendrad at 10/18/11 2:27PM
  • textilet
    Great attitude!

    I loved that so many older ladies were at the conference over the weekend. It is encouraging to me to see that no matter what your age, you are never too old to listen to truths from God's word.
    by textilet at 10/18/11 3:01PM
  • crazy_mama
    I TOTALLY agree. I love to hear what older women have to say about the Bible and about marriage and about motherhood. SOOOOo much wisdom...please share it with us. Great post!
    by crazy_mama at 10/19/11 1:24AM
  • heatheronthehill
    by heatheronthehill at 10/19/11 7:00AM
  • tommyswife
    That was so wonderful. Brought tears to my eyes! May both the old and young of us be willing to listen and learn and teach and help one another on our journey to heaven!

    by tommyswife at 10/19/11 8:51AM
  • lori_in_pa
    This is excellent. It IS hard, though, when many, many young women do not want to hear anything other than that they are terrific.
    by lori_in_pa at 10/19/11 9:09AM
  • mayflower
    Thanks for the post! So true!
    by mayflower at 10/19/11 12:21PM
  • granny
    I well remember how inadequate I felt while my boys were in their teens. Those memories make me wonder if I have have actually learned anything since worthwhile to offer. But the years go by and we learn more of God's word and discover that the answers were always there, if we had only applied ourselves better in our younger years. Not just the facts, but meditate on the principles that will aid us as parents. Onward, my girl, even as I too face challenges and try and be there for the younger.
    by granny at 10/19/11 3:47PM
  • granny
    Hey, so nice to see a face to go with your name! So enjoyed the photos below. Lap up all the love you can. Special days.
    by granny at 10/19/11 3:53PM
  • misssonja
    Appreciate this post. As a fat old lady, I am always SO encouraged by the few earnest and humble young ladies who truly seek input from their elders. They (you) make me happy. And not because I think I have done so righteously that you should want to emulate my wondrous goodness (buahahahaha!) -- but quite the reverse: Because I have lived long enough to know what I done did a lousy job with, where my parents were strong/weak, where my thinking/choices went awry, where my friends made wretched and regrettable mistakes in marriage and parenting -- and I have observed those who have done/are doing it RIGHT. My experience can spare you a world of grief and point you toward joy, if only you will listen. And the more I realize that, the more I want to hear from my elders, too, so they can HELP ME STOP MAKING MISTAKES!!! :)
    by misssonja at 10/19/11 5:22PM
  • anne
    I have never felt as needed by sisters in Christ as I do where we are working now. Ladies, both young and old, literally begging to be taught. What a privilege to be at this stage of my life! God bless you for your honesty, and generous spirit. When the Lord commanded the older women to teach the younger women, He necessarily implied that the younger women are to learn from them. The older women must approach the younger women with love and understanding; the younger women must approach the older women with love and humility. We have so much to gain from one another, if we will only LOVE each other like the Savior requests!
    by anne at 10/19/11 9:16PM
  • angelad
    Excellent! Thank you for posting this!!
    by angelad at 10/20/11 8:27AM
  • purrph1
    by purrph1 at 10/21/11 3:50PM
  • ginnyann
    Hello. this is ginnyann.....just happened to hit the wrong button and came upon your post. I fit into that category of "older women" and thought I would give you a "kudos" for your thoughts. So often older women think they have nothing to do once they get to the "grandmaw" stage of their life. But there are lots of words of wisdom we can share. Sometimes, the younger women just need to ask or indicate that they want that wisdom, but that shouldn't keep us from teaching by example. I love that you are wanting that wisdom or just some words of encouragement. Love and respect for the "older" folks goes a long way.
    by ginnyann at 10/26/11 10:05AM
  • didow
    Well said. I had a wonderful mother in-law. She was always willing to help me out with advice and such and always did it in a spirit of gentleness. Her one flaw was her unwillingness to share her wealth of wisdom with those besides her daughter and daughter in-laws. I had a friend beg me to ask her to share her wisdom with her but to no avail. I learned then how important it is to do what God asks even if it is stepping out of your own comfort zone.
    by didow at 01/28/12 4:11PM
  • sullivan
    Amen. Thank you for sharing.
    by sullivan at 05/25/12 5:13PM


James feels like he "rocked it". We should find out tomorrow morning.

I think he had a happy birthday...

  • crazy_mama
    Wow he did very well with that cake. Looks like he enjoyed himself.
    by crazy_mama at 08/30/09 12:50AM
  • homeschoolmomma23
    My Faith had a birthday Saturday as well. She turned 9.
    by homeschoolmomma23 at 08/30/09 7:18AM
  • curlie
    Awww! Happy birthday to Henry! :)
    by curlie at 08/30/09 4:47PM
  • sar
    So sweet!
    by sar at 08/30/09 9:05PM
  • jenjam
    Wow, he really went after that cake! So cute.
    by jenjam at 08/30/09 9:53PM
  • shelbysmom
    impressive. Was his faced dyed blue after all that icing?
    by shelbysmom at 08/31/09 8:46AM
  • christina
    Now THAT is a happy birthday!!
    by christina at 08/31/09 9:02AM
  • onelittlecandle
    Awesome! Methinks he enjoyed that tremendously! :)
    by onelittlecandle at 08/31/09 11:03AM
  • holly_ann
    by holly_ann at 08/31/09 12:05PM
  • meg
    How fun!!
    by meg at 08/31/09 12:24PM
  • mel_ody
    He looks so happy and pleased with himself! Looks like he really enjoyed the cake! Wow, a year already! Time sure does fly these days!
    by mel_ody at 08/31/09 12:54PM
  • charirosey
    by charirosey at 08/31/09 1:00PM
  • purrph1
    That is so cute!
    by purrph1 at 08/31/09 1:40PM
  • lyndie
    Looks like he enjoyed his birthday rather much! Happy Birthday little guy!
    by lyndie at 09/01/09 10:06AM
  • sarahphim
    Oh, my. I think you're right. :)
    by sarahphim at 09/01/09 10:13AM
  • bikerdude16
    Your kids are adorable!
    by bikerdude16 at 09/05/09 6:09PM
  • 23_bravo_7
    You wrote on Miriam's blog "Unfortunately, criticism and teaching and correction are seldom employed." Amen. I was raised in a different time, when brethren took me aside and showed me how to improve, Miriam's mother among them. Try that in come congregations and it is looked upon as discouragement instead of correction. We have become satisfied with the less than adequate in too many cases.
    by 23_bravo_7 at 09/22/09 12:13PM
  • canardmom23
    Hey, I've just been browsing around pleo. He is so cute! Happy Birthday little man.
    by canardmom23 at 12/23/09 4:36PM
  • granny
    I've been hearing about a certain James running around over here. Could he be yours?!
    by granny at 04/01/10 8:22AM
  • abigail_1s25
    hes so funny!
    by abigail_1s25 at 08/28/10 5:03PM

Saturday Sillies

  • desi
    by desi at 05/15/09 10:28PM
  • wifelet
    OK, that's the weirdest thing I've seen in a while ...
    by wifelet at 05/16/09 8:35AM
  • matthew_and_brooke
    Had seen the video before, but the music is new to me... that was great!
    by matthew_and_brooke at 05/16/09 11:26AM
  • mountainmama
    ROTFL!!! That's almost as good as the Fish Head Song.
    by mountainmama at 05/16/09 11:56AM
  • lyndie
    Awww... poor guy! But, he looked happy at least.
    by lyndie at 05/16/09 1:05PM
  • sharon
    Owen is gettting DOWN to this!!
    by sharon at 05/16/09 6:34PM
  • nillabarr
    Lily is bustin' a move!
    by nillabarr at 05/17/09 8:08PM
  • johnandleah
    That bow (PP) is a large stacked bow measuring around 4.5" (can be made smaller though if needed). It is $8.00. Thanks for looking! Let me know if you want any :O)
    by johnandleah at 05/18/09 10:55PM
  • christina
    Silly hamster!
    by christina at 05/19/09 8:51AM
  • sarahphim
    Glad your surgery is behind you.

    I love my little men, too. I love how they love to be the leaders and are always wanting to show me the way. Of course, having two little leaders around can cause some conflict...
    by sarahphim at 05/19/09 9:07AM
  • mel_ody
    Glad your surgery went okay and hope the recovery is quick. Indi is ready to be potty trained I think, but now is not a good time so I'll probably wait a few more weeks till we're hopefully settled.
    by mel_ody at 05/19/09 2:20PM
  • norriej
    Wow you have a lot going on!! I hope that your recovery goes well and that you're done with surgeries for awhile!!
    by norriej at 05/19/09 2:21PM
  • wifelet
    I feel ya on the bath towels. I had to go through several purchase-check at home-return cycles to find the right towels for my guest bath. I'm happy with the ones I have now - and they were from Walmart! :)

    BTW, I'm totally stealing apoocalypse when I have kids. :)
    by wifelet at 05/19/09 6:39PM
  • homeschoolmomma23
    I love the Song of the Lark. The Mill on the Floss is a little of a downer. I've not read it, just saw the MT adaptation. It is setting on my shelf waiting to be read. I do like her Daniel Deronda and Middlemarch. Both of those are fantastic.
    by homeschoolmomma23 at 05/21/09 12:00PM

Rhett and Link

So...Joel is here with us this weekend and introduced us to my new favorite website-

Ok, so I had trouble choosing just one...
  • lyndie
    D's mulling over the Highlander. :P I'll get back to you.

    I've seen some of those before... the last one was great!!
    by lyndie at 03/08/09 11:56PM
  • nthnswmn
    I LOVE the fear of frogs song! Have you heard the facebook one? It's great...
    by nthnswmn at 03/09/09 1:43PM
  • matermagistra
    Edwin loves Rhett and Link. They are funny!
    by matermagistra at 03/09/09 7:05PM
  • sharon
    I have never seen those before. Very entertaining. :)
    by sharon at 03/09/09 7:34PM
  • missy
    They are pretty funny.
    by missy at 03/09/09 8:41PM
  • lyndie
    Awww... tell her congrats!
    by lyndie at 03/09/09 10:01PM
  • justjenn
    awww tell Liz and Coz congrats for me.
    by justjenn at 03/09/09 10:07PM
  • sherry_everett
    My little girl will be 4 in July. I am selling her 4T dresses because they have gotten too short on her (they make those things so short these days!), but she is still wearing her shirts/capris/pants that are size 4. Sorry I couldn't help you.
    by sherry_everett at 03/19/09 3:24PM