It's Tuesday, right?

Friday felt like Saturday. Saturday felt like not Saturday. Monday felt like Saturday. I'm confused.

I know this: Going to Florida is a lot like staying home. Going to the Carribbean is also a lot like staying home. I know these things because I've done both in the last 14 months.

Jesse and I discussed awhile back the fact that "Florida College" could just as easily have been "Colorado College". What were they thinking?

Oh, well, so the trip was rainy -- we didn't get soaked or anything. The college was interesting. The only building I went into was Hutchinson Auditorium, which looks like it does in the pictures except that the red roof is dirty. :-) The rest of the buildings are beige. Do other colors of paint cost more?

I attended "chapel" with Jesse on Friday morning, where we sat near the back because he registered late for classes and didn't get a good assigned seat. During the school song, I just stood there for a few moments until he pointed out that it was pasted in the front of the book, separate and apart from the numbered songs. I think it didn't really belong in the book, though, because the note heads were all shaped like "sol".

On Saturday evening we all went to a melodrama there, which was as melodramatic as it should have been.

On Sunday morning we worshipped with the saints at Henderson Blvd. Marty Pickup was the visiting preacher, and spoke about the supposed "lost books" of the Bible. Very interesting. I haven't ever discussed this issue with anyone, but if it ever comes up I'll know something about it now.

Following the service they announced that, because they allow their parking to be used by customers of Outback Steakhouse across the street, the steakhouse was going to have them (and us, by extension) all over for lunch. (Outback is not normally open for lunch.) Now, that was a nice surprise!

On Sunday evening we worshipped with the University group. Among the visitors were the Coffeys from Centerville, TX.

Jesse, Brian, and Tim's apartment (I could probably link them because they're probably on Pleo, but I don't know their userids) is exceptional, in that it's actually decorated. Because it's neat and clean, you might think it doesn't look like guys live there, but all of the old long playing albums decorating the walls give it away as the residence of males.

(Okay, I found Brian, but his blog is dead and I don't understand why it's called "andrew87" anyway. I don't remember Tim's last name so I can't Google him.)

Rental car: Kia Spectra. Very nice. Quieter than our 3rd gen. Altima (although new Altimas may be quieter). Wouldn't be a bad work car for me should the Saturn ever die. I was talked into the insurance on it. In the past I have always said "no", but the woman said that if I had an accident and it were out of service, I would have to pay rental on it for every day. Being on the spot, I took it, which essentially doubled the rental price. I don't know whether she was telling the truth, and I don't know whether my insurance company, or perhaps the credit card company, would have taken care of the expense. I know I wasn't going to wreck the car, and should have had enough confidence in that to refuse. Oh, well.

Anyway, it was a good trip. On the way home yesterday, I saw a rainbow from above.

Thank you, Jesse, for asking us to go visit. I'm really excited about your plans, and that everything seems to be working out great.

That makes this a very contented time in my life... both sons' lives seem to be on track, which is exactly what we've been working on for the last 23 years. (Jacquelyn has been working for 23 years. I started about 5 years ago.) I think my job is pretty much done. Contentment! Having thought about things on the way home, I've concluded that I'm really finished with the pro-active part of parenthood. The job for now is to help out or give advice when help or advice is requested.


  • bah
    but wait! you know have a new "son" living under your roof. but he's actually got his life going quite well for him so I guess you are free again. have you gotten the new pipes in?
    by bah at 09/25/07 1:50PM
  • jenkegley
    What a pleasant realization - congratulations!
    by jenkegley at 09/25/07 1:57PM
  • adampual
    there have been a lot of crazy rainbow experiences lately.

    i'm pretty sure your full coverage insurance would take care of that. i hate rental car companies. they tried to trick me in new york but i said no.
    by adampual at 09/25/07 4:00PM
  • rainout
    SO glad you finally went to (or back to) FC!! sounds like a good trip...awesome about Outback, who'd've thunk it?? I love the Coffees! and yes I'd say you've done a remarkable job of parenting! it's one scary thing, isn't it?
    by rainout at 09/25/07 4:15PM
  • i_wantobe_ready
    Sounds like an eye opener for you. I wish your boys and my girls were the same age... The rental car thing is true according to him you could wind up with quite a huge bill that is NOT covered under your insurance. I forgot what he called it, but what it anounts to is they don't have the car available to rent so by contract you have to keep paying for it until it's back on the road.
    by i_wantobe_ready at 09/25/07 6:02PM
  • i_wantobe_ready
    dumb link didn't work...
    by i_wantobe_ready at 09/25/07 6:02PM
  • yoyoma
    thanks for coming
    by yoyoma at 09/25/07 6:24PM
  • the_gaffer
    I have a couple of the "lost books" volumes. Some are really quite interesting. Most are obviously apostate. Bel and the Dragon is a good, short one, and I bet it's on line somewhere.
    by the_gaffer at 09/25/07 6:59PM
  • laughing_eyes
    :) YAY!
    by laughing_eyes at 09/25/07 8:46PM
  • ambre
    I'm glad y'all enjoyed the trip! Too bad you couldn't get away from the weather :) haha
    by ambre at 09/25/07 10:20PM
  • this_old_man
    So you went to FC years ago huh? Hmmmm...
    by this_old_man at 09/26/07 6:49AM
  • carolattheriver
    yes, because it was a thought... bad huh.
    by carolattheriver at 09/26/07 9:05AM
  • carolattheriver
    I read your post btw. There was just so much there I didn't know what to comment on at the end.:) I am glad you had such a good trip though.
    by carolattheriver at 09/26/07 9:06AM
  • mjintexas
    You make me miss FC.
    by mjintexas at 09/26/07 2:16PM
  • emmywoo
    oh yeah, you know it!
    by emmywoo at 09/26/07 3:22PM
  • maucknot
    I've always found it easy to talk about sports. That's my hobby, as you know, and the thing I do to escape the more serious side of life.
    by maucknot at 09/26/07 4:39PM
  • tangsoodotpm
    it's been rather pointless for most of the semester
    by tangsoodotpm at 09/26/07 5:37PM
  • diannes
    Glad you finally go to go. Yes, you've done a fine job, with your sons. The proof is in the pudding.
    by diannes at 09/27/07 12:34PM
  • rebekah1
    hmmmmmm... c.c. instead of f.c...

    what great times you have with your boys. i love that!
    by rebekah1 at 09/27/07 1:19PM
  • AlanL
    I'm not so much trying to say that they came out great (though I think they did), but rather that it occurs to me that the "raising them" phase is complete. I do look forward to having good times -- even better times -- with them.
    by AlanL at 09/27/07 1:51PM

We're back

There sure are a lot of white links over there.
  • laughing_eyes
    LOL. Lots has happened while you were away ;)
    by laughing_eyes at 09/24/07 9:38PM
  • ambre
    I'm glad y'all are back! Hope you had fun!
    by ambre at 09/24/07 10:26PM
  • mjintexas
    Isn't that crazy? I go away, and it's like, BAM. White names everywhere!
    by mjintexas at 09/24/07 11:26PM
  • this_old_man
    White names??
    by this_old_man at 09/25/07 7:28AM
  • the_shadow
    2008 Sky Turbo = FUN!!!!!
    by the_shadow at 09/25/07 9:48AM
  • the_shadow
    No :(
    by the_shadow at 09/25/07 11:13AM
  • rainout
    hurry alan, we've got to hear about it! does it look the same as it did when you were there before???!!! HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
    by rainout at 09/25/07 11:41AM

Score!

Ebay auction won.


This exhaust is original equipment on the Aero. With the cool fin, it looks a lot better than the silly straight pipes, and it will be much, much quieter, possibly as quiet as a car.

I haven't called the Honda dealer, but I've read that this item is $1500 new. Every auction or fixed price advertisement I've seen for a used one has been $200-350. I got it for $32.01. Of course, the shipping is $82.68, but this is quite a deal for $114.

Edit for Renee:

"Pipes" = "Exhaust". The one I bought actually has a muffler. I'm not sure the one that's on my bike has a muffler, they may just be straight (empty) pipes.

"Fin" = "Tailfin", like on a '57 Chevy, except this is on the exhaust.

For comparison, here's what's on my bike now, and a photo of an original version from a magazine:

Should I get a set of white wall tires?
(Are you gonna cruise the miracle mile?)
  • bah
    that does look good! you won't have to change any jetting will you? or is yours EFI?
    by bah at 09/19/07 11:45AM
  • rainout
    GREEK!
    by rainout at 09/19/07 11:48AM
  • AlanL
    "Jets" = "Carburetor Jets", the holes that the fuel goes through. When you put a more or less restrictive exhaust system on, you should change the carburetor jets. EFI = Electronic Fuel Injection, and no, this bike doesn't have it.
    by AlanL at 09/19/07 12:04PM
  • emmywoo
    motorcycles. motorcycles. motorcycles @_@ i love them so.... no i didnt do the pic myself, im not that talented ^_^
    by emmywoo at 09/19/07 12:13PM
  • SaraJones
    I agree with your point #2.
    by SaraJones at 09/19/07 12:54PM
  • mamamia
    Glad you are excited. :)
    by mamamia at 09/19/07 1:48PM
  • the_shadow
    How much will the one you're taking off sell for on ebay?
    by the_shadow at 09/19/07 2:34PM
  • bah
    nice ending touch with Billy!
    by bah at 09/19/07 4:51PM
  • biobo
    donor cycle
    by biobo at 09/19/07 6:27PM
  • fiyero
    That bike is a beauty. Wow!
    by fiyero at 09/19/07 9:25PM
  • el_magnifico
    MUCH better!
    by el_magnifico at 09/20/07 8:35AM
  • larry
    Definitely get some white walls.
    by larry at 09/20/07 9:54AM
  • the_gaffer
    Stick with the pink "sidewinders".
    by the_gaffer at 09/20/07 10:51AM
  • rainout
    THANK YOU!! now i can picture it!! :)
    by rainout at 09/20/07 12:12PM
  • rainout
    oh and Billy Joel!
    by rainout at 09/20/07 12:13PM
  • meagan
    That is very flashy.
    by meagan at 09/21/07 2:20AM
  • diannes
    OOOOoooowww, niiiiiiiiiiiiiice!
    by diannes at 09/21/07 10:07AM
  • joc
    Congratulations on your "super find". I just love bargains!
    by joc at 09/21/07 9:31PM
  • laughing_eyes
    you're stylin' now :)
    by laughing_eyes at 09/22/07 8:54AM
  • mjintexas
    :D
    by mjintexas at 09/24/07 2:19PM

Nothing but blue skies do I see

Lovely weather we're having. You are driving with the windows down, aren't you? I thought so. Got a convertible? I don't want to see that top up! What, you're driving your pickup to work, and there's a motorcycle in your garage? Are you crazy?



Thursday, Friday, today... and tomorrow and Wednesday, perhaps, the commute was made in the ultimate open air fashion. Thursday I'll work from home in the morning, then pack for a trip (leaving Thursday night, returning Monday evening). Yes, I'm finally visiting FC.

  • SaraJones
    GREAT WEATHER IS GREAT!!! WISH I HAD A CONVERTIBLE!
    by SaraJones at 09/17/07 3:02PM
  • mamamia
    Opened my sunroof ... very happy that I have my sunroof back!

    I would like to have a motorcycle like that. I would settle for a moped.
    by mamamia at 09/17/07 3:06PM
  • bah
    We should all take a bike trip to FC...how cool would that be???!!!
    by bah at 09/17/07 3:12PM
  • this_old_man
    Beware the HoLierThAnThOu monster that lurks down near Tampa.:)
    by this_old_man at 09/17/07 4:50PM
  • rainout
    it's about time!!
    by rainout at 09/17/07 5:32PM
  • laughing_eyes
    I elevated it at work until I could leave. One of my friends gave me a bag of ice. So it's not as bad as it could be :)
    by laughing_eyes at 09/17/07 7:02PM
  • laughing_eyes
    I just came back with a stopover at the Magic Kingdom.
    by laughing_eyes at 09/17/07 7:03PM
  • packetstorm5150
    I hope you aren't reading pleonast whilst driving...
    by packetstorm5150 at 09/17/07 9:56PM
  • sharon
    Yes, I officially feel like an adult. I think my childhood is far behind me now.
    by sharon at 09/18/07 11:18AM
  • sharon
    We married at 21 (hey, now that I think about it, I think you were there??). People are such kids at 21. Scary.
    by sharon at 09/18/07 11:19AM
  • diannes
    Yeah, Coco seemed to enjoy the ride. When it was time to leave, she loaded right up. No fussing. I saw a beautiful VTX1300, in Ennis, at the dealership. Oooooowwww, I sat on it. It was a lime color. I almost drooled.
    by diannes at 09/18/07 5:09PM
  • windham4life
    Sometimes I wish I had a convertible too. :)
    by windham4life at 09/18/07 11:06PM
  • adampual
    same here when i used another browser. lame.
    by adampual at 09/19/07 10:59AM

Thoughts

I've done no harm, I keep to myself;
There's nothing wrong with my state of mental health.
I like it here with my childhood friend;
Here they come, those feelings again!
At Ted and Junelle's last weekend (or was it the weekend before? My concept of time stinks) there was a book on the coffee table called "You Can Be Happy No Matter What: Five Principles for Keeping Life in Perspective". I read 28 pages of it, and since I agreed with it (!) I decided to get my own copy.

One point it tries to make is that "reality" is different for everyone. Of course, reality can only be one thing, but we all see life differently, and we're all convinced that our version of things is the correct one. That means that everyone else is crazy, either a little bit or a lot. No, it means that what I see reinforces what I already believe, and I tend to dismiss things that would make me change my mind as being anomalies.

Another point that I really like is that our thoughts are not reality. That seems obvious, but he makes the case of a psychotic person, who believes all of their thoughts to be reality. Where I might walk out on the balcony at work and say "hey, I could jump right over the ledge!", a psychotic person would think that the same thought was a voice telling them to jump. As more normal people, we still tend to take our thoughts too seriously. We may imagine what would happen if we were to fail to get a project done on time, and the next thing you know we're certain that we're going to lose our job. I actually saw a guy I worked for in that state one night, practically in tears because the department in the store he managed wasn't performing as well as he thought it should, and his boss was coming in from out of town the next day. As it turned out, the boss commended his work and he was getting promoted and transferred! His "reality" the night before had been that he was going to lose his job.

I haven't finished the book, and I hope to find some good advice for dealing with real situations that just aren't going to get better, but so far I think I have something that will help me.

First, realizing that we all see things differently, I won't stubbornly ignore what other people think. I will also understand when they stubbornly refuse to agree with what I am sure is true. This will help me to be patient. Psalm 32:9 -- "Do not be as the horse or as the mule which have no understanding, Whose trappings include bit and bridle to hold them in check, Otherwise they will not come near to you." If I'm stubborn, people will not continue to be patient with me... and I need for people to be patient! In the same way, because I know people must be patient with me, I know that I must also be patient.

Second, I'm not going to try to imagine the future. Matthew 6:34 -- "Each day has enough trouble of its own." If I look at the possibilities of what life may be like in 10 years, I'm depriving myself of today.

Combining the two, we should not imagine that someone has deliberately done something to hurt us. If we get our feelings hurt it's because we aren't patient enough (we expect too much from that person), and also because we had a thought that said that the other person has something against us, or is mad at us, or just doesn't like us -- but we're making that up.

That's only one step away from thinking that voices are telling us the other person hates us.
Here in my car
I can only receive.
I can listen to you --
It keeps me stable for days
In cars.
  • psemmusa
    Wow. Did you and Mr Paul collaborate on your posts? Something this near identical from two people I respect, voicing something I've been thinking for some time, that's beyond coincidental. Cut it out, Lord! *please?*
    by psemmusa at 09/14/07 6:18PM
  • carolattheriver
    Sounds like a good book.
    by carolattheriver at 09/14/07 6:20PM
  • ambre
    Sounds like a book I would like!
    by ambre at 09/14/07 6:58PM
  • campgal
    Ooo. sounds good. my parents always told me that to be happy is a choice.
    by campgal at 09/14/07 10:46PM
  • laughing_eyes
    interesting...
    by laughing_eyes at 09/14/07 10:47PM
  • laughing_eyes
    ^^good advice
    by laughing_eyes at 09/14/07 10:47PM
  • bah
    good points....and Gary Newman?
    by bah at 09/14/07 10:57PM
  • packetstorm5150
    I like Gary Newman.
    by packetstorm5150 at 09/15/07 11:38AM
  • rainout
    sort of american/tejano?? at the astros game
    by rainout at 09/15/07 1:12PM
  • joc
    Excellent thoughts.
    by joc at 09/15/07 7:44PM
  • diannes
    My horse and mule come near anytime I have a treat for them. They know the sound the container makes, when being opened and they know the smell, from about 10 feet away.
    by diannes at 09/16/07 9:05PM
  • mjintexas
    Quite interesting thoughts. I should probably read that!
    by mjintexas at 09/17/07 1:49PM
  • tangsoodotpm
    LOL
    by tangsoodotpm at 09/17/07 1:55PM